Let me start out by saying there is nothing wrong with asking kids to sleep on the floor. They don’t have the aches and pains associated with middle age, and often, they prefer to all be together on the floor that separated in their own rooms.
That said, if kids are ganging up and singling someone out by forcing them to sleep alone on the floor, well, there could be an issue.
OP and his wife blended their family some years ago. They have three daughters, none together, who are 16-19. They have always gotten along well (he thought).
I’ve known my stepdaughters since they were little. We’re pretty much family and Candace is a sahm but I give her full access to my money since this stuff was already discussed before handed. Pretty much everything was.
It was Candace who got a room for the 3 girls as to not stir any drama and save money. She was in charge of hotel reservation since I was emotionally distressed.
When OP’s father passed they had to stay out of town to attend services and his wife booked two rooms for the five of them. The girls’ room had just one king-sized bed, which they figured was plenty big enough for the three girls.
My dad passed away 2 weeks ago. Me, my wife ‘Candace’ and my daughter (16) ‘Shiloh’ and her stepsisters (19) & (17) flew to my hometown to attend the funeral.
After that we got 2 hotel rooms (one for me and Candace, one for the girls).
Candace did NOT expect Shiloh to sleep on the floor. She wanted all 3 girls to share the bed.
But, when it came time for bed, the stepsisters were trying to force OP’s daughter to sleep on the floor.
While I was in the room, I got a call from Shiloh at 11pm crying and sounded like she was arguing with her stepsisters. I asked what the matter was and she told me that her stepsisters insisted that she sleep on the floor (there were one large bed in the room and there was enough space for all 3 girls to sleep on).
I asked why and she said she didn’t know. I went to see what the issue was and talked with my stepdaughters about it. They kept talking but didn’t really explain why they told her to sleep on the floor.
They just shrugged and said “It’s better this way…we’re more comfortable this way..”.
He ended up getting her her own room, which angered the rest of his family.
I told Shiloh to grab her things and when one of my stepdaughters asked where we were going, I told her I was booking her a hotel room.
Both looked upset but didn’t say anything but they must’ve called their mom because she was awake when I got back and started arguing with me about giving Shiloh an entire hotel room for herself.
I explained why I did it but she said I wasted money and that Shiloh could’ve sucked it up for one night on the floor. I called her unreasonable for saying this but she told me I showed the girls that I’m “playing favorites” and made my stepdaughters share a room while I gave my daughter and entire room for herself.
We went home and Candace is still bringing it up saying I mishandled this. She even pointed out how my stepdaughters are upset since they’re not speaking to me.
Should he have handled things differently? Let’s hear if Reddit has a different take!
The top comment says nothing about what the stepdaughters did is ok.
And I mean, the stepsisters got what they wanted!
This commenter says Dad played all of his cards exactly right.
But this person says this is just kids being kids. No harm no foul.
Other say this is a more serious situation.
I don’t know what to think.
Except that OP needs to have a serious chat with his daughter to find out her take.