Moms and dads should co-parent as much as possible, don’t you think?
Well, that seems ideal, but we all know how things can go sideways when it comes to kids, family, and all that stuff.
And the woman who wrote this story on Reddit is having some tough times at home.
But did she act like a erk to her husband?
Read on and get all the details below…
AITA for refusing to send the kids to bed early just because my husband wants to relax?
“My husband works 10hr shifts at a shipyard. Leaves at 8am and is home by 6:30pm. His job is 3 minutes down the street.
She’s pulling the weight around the house.
I work 8hr shifts at home, while also homeschooling our 3 school aged kids (7yo twins, 5yo), nursing our 2 month old and doing all the cooking.
We do NOT homeschool as a normal. Schools have been shut down for 5 or 6 weeks after finding lead in the drinking water.
But given this, I’m doing far more than my husband is.
Not that it’s a competition but let’s be real.
And times are tough…
Well, this past week has been extremely rough on me mentally.
A child passed away in my family and another family member is hospitalized in ICU. I’m struggling to power through it while still working, homeschooling, nursing the baby and cooking by myself.
My husband is the opposite though.
He isn’t even remotely affected by what’s going on in my family right now (he didn’t know the child and he’s not close to my hospitalized family member).
He checks in on me through text during the day but when he gets home, he doesn’t mention it.
Doesn’t ask how I am.
He grabs his plate of dinner and takes the baby to go hang out with him while I clean up (I know it could be argued that he should be helping clean but me and my children are clean freaks and enjoy cleaning so it’s no issue).
And then her husband had a request…
But the night before last he asked if I could send the kids to bed early (7pm) because he “just wanted to relax”.
I said no.
The kids had been great all day and they weren’t even bothering him so no.
They won’t be punished for zero reason.
Then last night at like 6:50ish he goes “so we are sending the kids to bed at 7, right?”
I said no, why would we?
And he snapped.
He said “I just want to ******* relax without having anyone talk to me after busting my *** all day. I’m tired of working and getting zero down time.”
And storms out of the room. This absolutely ****** me off because I work full time and do everything in this house so I should be the one begging for a break.
The kids are in bed by 8, meaning he has literally 2.5 hours to deal with them daily. But anyways, he comes back in and says “sorry, can we please just send them to bed?”
I said no and walked away. He’s mad at me and says I’m not letting him catch a break “once a week”.”
Here’s what Reddit users had to say.
One person said she should leave this situation…if she wants to.
Another reader said she’s NTA and said this probably won’t get any better.
One Reddit user said this guy sounds familiar…
Another reader came up with a good plan.
And this person said she’s NTA and explained why.
Sounds like this guy got a much-needed reality check.
What a jerk!
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