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AITA for arguing with my wife and refusing to fire the nanny?
“I (M30s) live with my wife (F30s). We both work full-time jobs and have three kids, ages 3, 6 and 7.
He’s on the rise at his job.
I used to work from home with flexible hours but I’ve been offered a promotion which requires me to go to work in person. The pay increase is really significant so my wife and I agreed I should take the promotion and hire a part-time nanny for our kids.
I got in touch with a nanny agency and they matched us to someone who lives local. They only told us her first name which was a really common name anyway, but for the sake of story telling we’ll say her name’s Sarah.
I spoke to Sarah on the phone and she seemed really nice. We arranged a day for her to come over and meet my wife and the kids and for us to show her around the house.
There was a surprise.
When the day came around and we met her, it turned out that my wife already knew Sarah. It was really awkward. I wasn’t sure how they knew each other until afterwards.
My wife told me that back when she was in high school, her boyfriend at the time cheated on her with Sarah who was in her class.
She wasn’t enthusiastic about it but my wife didn’t seem to have a problem with Sarah being our nanny at first. Our kids love her, she has lots of experience and she’s available when we need her.
After a couple of weeks with pretty much no issues, my two oldest kids come to me and say that they don’t want Sarah to come back. I ask them why and they said she’s “evil”. I ask why they think she’s evil and our 6 year old starts crying and says that Sarah is mean and wants to hurt mommy.
I talked to my wife in private and at first she said she had no idea what the kids were talking about and that it must be because of something Sarah did.
You can guess what happened next…
When I pressed it, my wife admitted that she told the kids that Sarah is evil. She said she knows it was a ridiculous plan but she was hoping I’d fire her. My wife asked me to fire the nanny because their history makes her uncomfortable.
I asked why it wasn’t an issue before. My wife said she just needed to think about it and she’s decided Sarah has to go.
I told my wife that we can find another nanny but until then there’s no reason to get rid of Sarah, and that she was out of line for trying to weaponise the kids against her when Sarah is no danger to them.
My wife disagreed and said that we need to just fire Sarah ASAP and hire a temporary babysitter until we can find another nanny. She said that she wasn’t weaponising the kids, she was just setting boundaries.
He finally told her what he thought of her.
This turned into a really heated argument and I called my wife insecure and controlling, and told her she needs to go to therapy. My wife said I’m being inconsiderate of her feelings and need to put myself in her shoes.
This was one of our biggest arguments in a very long time and I just want a neutral opinion on whether I was wrong.”
Here’s what Reddit users had to say.
One individual made a good point…
This Reddit user thinks they all SUCK.
One reader thinks the wife was out of line.
This person added more about the wife’s behavior.
Another individual said he shouldn’t have hired this nanny.
This…doesn’t sound like a good situation.
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