They say you should never do business with family, but that doesn’t necessarily guarantee family harmony.
Read this story to see another way your business can cause a rift in your family, in this case with a wedding cake.
AITA for sending a price sheet to my family after not being invited to my half sister’s wedding?
I (22F) am a full-time baker for a small business and I’m also a college student.
I moved back up to my home state in September of 2023, mostly to get away from my toxic family and for better opportunities.
My half-sister who we will call Jojo is getting married to Rhitt in July.
It starts out with a request that would be somewhat understandable under normal circumstances.
My mom and grandma asked that I make them a wedding cake, which I would’ve happily agreed to if I was invited to the wedding.
The thing is, they wanted me to make a cake fit for 200 people, get a hotel near them, work for 3 days, and get a flight there and back.
I’d have to pay for all of it, they think it’d be a nice gift to my sister.
I just laughed and sent them my price sheet.
Multiple family members were outraged and started a ton of drama.
They flipped out.
I was bombarded with texts from them about how selfish I am, how I am truly vile, how I am toxic for expecting my family to pay for my cake when they could just go to Walmart to get one, etc..
Jojo even messaged me on Discord a week after I had sent the price sheet and asked why I would charge her when I made my best friend a free wedding cake.
I simply told her to f off as not only was I invited to her wedding, but I was the MOH and in a way it was a “returning the favor” for being a genuinely good friend and helping me out when I was going through a lot.
Jay and his wife had said I’m not wrong for it and they’d do the same thing, and my boyfriend is on my side.
However, a few people in my life are saying I should’ve just said a simple no instead of sending the sheet and that my response to my sister was harsh.
So, I need an outside perspective. I hope there are other bakers on here too.
AITA?
Here’s what people are saying.
I was thinking of the same thing as I have a business myself. An added cost is the time you could be spending on making other cakes for a profit.
LOL I loved the heathen comments. This one is my favorite.
Exactly. Toxic people can’t understand common sense.
A lot of people wondered why she speaks to these people.
I doubt they’d get the message, but this is still a good idea.
I love cake, but I hate users.
Solidarity.
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