Sibling relationships are powerful, but they change over time, just like any other relationship.

Some siblings, like the person in this story, don’t handle that change well, especially if it means having to share you with their new partner.

Check out what happened and see how her own life changes played into her feelings.

AITA for going on vacation knowing my sister was going into the hospital?

I have an older sister who has a history of mental illness and has been admitted to the hospital for this multiple times in the past.

We’ve always been unbelievably close, some would even say TOO close, but have had a lot of updates and downs in our relationship.

She was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder when she was 18 and has also been diagnosed with severe anxiety.

She recently became a new mother to the sweetest 11 month old baby boy and has been struggling with crippling anxiety.

The drama kicks in as her sister’s struggles worsen.

It has gotten so bad that multiple doctors have recommended she be hospitalized again.

When I found out that she was going to be hospitalized the day after the Fourth of July, when we have plans for a holiday, I didn’t think much of it.

She said that she is never going to forgive me for this and that my actions are “eye opening” because I wouldn’t spend one more day with her when I had also seen her just the day before.

Her sister’s codependency has been simmering for some time with no signs of stopping.

Ever since I’ve been in a relationship, she has become a lot more hostile towards me and asks me to rearrange plans with him to fit her needs if she is going through a hard time.

She expects a lot out of me and our relationship and it’s hard for me to express that maybe we don’t always need to be joint at the hip and we have our own lives now.

She requested I don’t visit her in the hospital so we are going to talk once she is out.

Here’s what people are saying.

Loads of people said the two need boundaries and I totally agree. Nothing she described sounds healthy.

That’s one way to put it.

Good question. I think they can have visitors?

Sounds very manipulative to me, too. It’s hard to deal with.

I hadn’t thought of this point. It’s ineffective and even unkind to judge her based on what’s rational when she can’t be rational right now.

I hope they have a healthier relationship soon.

If you liked that post, check out this story about a guy who was forced to sleep on the couch at his wife’s family’s house, so he went to a hotel instead.