As a kid, there’s no better treat than getting to stay at Grandma and Grandpa’s house.

They give you all the food you want, and usually let you stay up later than Mom and Dad.

But when this user’s mother moved in under the agreement that she would watch their kids, her sibling accused Mom of playing favorites when she didn’t have time to watch his!

Was she wrong to not let her brother drop his kids off at her house for Grandma to watch?

Decide for yourself!

AITA for wanting my mom to only babysit my kids and not my brother’s?

So I (37F) am married and have two kids (11 and 8). My husband and I both work full time corporate jobs so we don’t get home until 5-6pm every night.

We used to have a nanny who would pick the kids up from school and stay at home until one of us came back.

Almost a year ago, my father unfortunately passed leaving my mother (60F) alone, so between her, my husband and I, we all thought it’d be best for my mother to move in with us.

And with Mom moving in, they came to an arrangement that she would watch their children.

It became the arrangement that my husband and I renovated our home to create an in law suite for my mom to live in full time and we help take care of her bills.

In return she will essentially replace our nanny and look after our kids 2:30pm-6pm Monday-Friday.

It’s been great having her around, but the issue is that my brother (32M) and his wife (SIL) think it’s unfair and showing “favorites” if my mom only babysits my kids and not theirs.

So her brother and his wife decided they would appreciate some babysitting services as well, whether she or her Mom agreed or not.

Last week, SIL literally just dropped off her kids (2 and 4) at my house as soon as my husband I left for work and I only found out through my Ring camera.

My husband and I don’t want my brother’s kids at our house because
1) They’re very young and our house is not babyproofed and has many fragile items I know they will try to get into

2) The 4yo is extremely spoiled and his parents never say no or give him consequences so he goes to anyone’s house and has bad behavior

My mom only watches my kids for about three hours everyday, but my SIL is dropping off her kids ALL day at MY house even when my kids aren’t being watched.

Conveniently, Mom left the decision up to her over whether her nieces and nephews would be allowed…

My mom doesn’t know if she’s comfortable with watching 4 kids at once but she’ll try if needed. She said it’s ultimately up to me if my brother’s kids can come over since it’s my house.

So I told my brother and SIL no. SIL has been sending me the rudest messages about how I’m turning my kids spoiled and letting them have their grandmother’s favoritism etc etc.

She also said that I could afford a nanny but I’m choosing to “use” my mother when she and my brother can’t afford other childcare.

I just reminded her that she’s a SAHM and it’s her JOB to look after her kids, not my mother’s, and blocked her. So AITA?

I think her sister is missing one crucial detail: Grandma is watching the kids because they are giving her a place to stay.

Reddit agreed, saying her Mom isn’t doing this for free!

This user pointed out that watching older kids and watching toddlers are two very different beasts.

Another person agreed, saying the ages of her kids require considerably less maintenance at their age.

And finally, this person said that it sounded like her sister in law wanted to be a stay at home Mom, minus the Mom!

You don’t pay her bills, you don’t get her babysitting!

It all makes sense.

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