When life gives your more than what you need, it’s only fitting that you help out your parents.
But, what if, they’re asking for more than what you can give?
This man shares how his parents who came from a developing country wanted to retire in North America, but needed support from their children to do so.
He and his siblings argue that they should just go back to their home country.
Read the story below and weigh in.
AITA for telling my parents that I will only support them if they move back to their home country.
My parents moved to North America from a developing country when I was four.
My siblings were two years old and six months old, respectively.
My dad worked hard to make a life for us, and my mom worked hard making sure we didn’t waste the opportunities they were providing for us.
This man has a family now, along with his sisters.
They also sent money home to help my grandparents.
Sometimes to the detriment of our family here.
My sisters and I are all married with families now.
His parents are retiring soon, and want the same support they give their parents.
My parents are getting ready to retire, and they want us to supply them the way they supported our grandparents.
The problem is that we cannot afford to pay for everything here.
Even with my parents’ savings and my dad’s pension, they cannot maintain the lifestyle they have while my dad works.
He and his siblings believe that their parents are better off going back home to live abundantly.
However, with their money and ours combined, they can live like gods back home.
We could sell their house, and use that money to buy them a villa in a gated community.
They could fly back to see us all the time.
They could literally live in the top 1% there, instead of scraping by here.
But they want to see their grandkids all the time.
The only problem is the grandkids.
They want to see them all the time.
They think that my sisters and I are exiling them.
The children argue that it’s for the long term.
We are offering them a chance to have great lives in a country with no snow.
Where food costs are 1/4 to 1/6 those here.
Where the health care is actually rated higher than here.
We are looking at the next twenty years.
Now, their parents say they’re just being selfish and stingy.
When everything is said and done, I offered them the exact same amount they sent their folks.
It will buy their groceries every month and that’s it.
They think I’m being stingy and mean.
What a family drama.
Let’s check out what others have to say about this.
This user shares their personal thoughts.
Here’s a valid point from this one.
And another insightful comment.
This user has a different thing to say.
Finally, this one says no one is wrong in this situation.
Give them what you can offer, then let them decide where they want to live.
Then they can’t be upset.
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