It’s every parent’s nightmare to have their personal boundaries stomped on, especially by family.
This mom’s been dealing with her MIL’s social media antics for years, and now, with baby #2 on the way, she’s ready to put her foot down.
But is keeping grandma out of the delivery room a step too far?
Read on for the story…
AITA if I refuse to let my MIL come to the hospital when our baby is born?
My MIL has been difficult since day 1, unfortunately, she’s only gotten worse.
I don’t want my children’s info posted on social media. I don’t want specific information. I know some pictures will end up on social media, I don’t want their faces all over.
When we found out I was pregnant with my daughter, she posted on FB I was pregnant.
Oh, one of THOSE.
I was pissed and insisted she took it down. I was still on my 1st trimester & my now husband and I were not yet married.
My close family members had not even been told.
Later, when the date was scheduled and she found out, she posted my daughter’s DOB on FB. I was pissed and asked her to take it down. She said I was paranoid.
A couple weeks before my daughter was born, I kindly let her know my boundaries for my kids on FB. 1- no specifics (full names & exact DOB) 2 – If she wants to post a picture, please ask first.
A very fair request.
Her response was “No, I’m not doing that, you don’t get to tell me how to be a grandma” I responded with, “that’s fine, if you can follow the rules, you can’t come to the hospital”
As it happened, I went into labor later that day (3 weeks early). She never came. She didn’t meet my daughter for several months.
Fast forward, now my daughter is 5 and baby #2 will be here in 3 weeks. The thought of her coming to the hospital gives me so much anxiety!!
No kidding.
There have been a handful of other minor things over the last few years that have told me loud and clear she doesn’t respect me.
I was planning on not telling my husband the date, somehow he found out, of course she already knows.
I know if I say she can’t come it will cause a major fight.
She’s tried to be clear, but Grandma seems determined to post first, ask questions never.
Reddit thinks Grandma needs a reality check.
This person thinks there’s multiple problems (aka people) involved.
This person has a similar story.
This person thinks MIL’s got boundary issues.
One thing’s for sure…
If Grandma can’t respect the rules, she might be stuck with likes and comments from home.
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