Babysitting for family can be a fun bonding experience with the children and a nice favor for the parents, but if the parents don’t appreciate the favor, babysitting isn’t as nice anymore.
In today’s story, the parents make up lies about the babysitter, their own relative, but then the parents are even more upset when she refuses to babysit.
Let’s see how the story unfolds…
AITA for refusing to babysit my niece?
My brother & SIL say they caught me on the nanny cam not watching their child and working instead. I don’t know who all they told this to, but it got back to me.
What actually happened is, I was asked to babysit last minute & I said I had scheduled work meetings & deadlines, but since I WFH I could come over with my partner & take care of my niece. I offered for my partner to watch her with my supervision.
B&SIL agreed to this & I sent several photo & video updates of niece having a lovely time playing with my partner who is really wonderful with children & always so sweet to my niece.
OP told her brother and sister-in-law that she’s not going to babysit anymore.
I was horrified that family, friends & who knows else was being told that I was not properly caring for my niece.
I communicated my limitation in advance, but they completely left that detail out & made it seem like I blindsided them.
I decided to let myself cool down from this frustrating circumstance & then sent a message to my B&SIL saying that I love my niece but I no longer feel comfortable caring for her on my own because of the way that things have been communicated and, in my opinion, seriously misconstrued. This meant I’m no longer on the list of people that can be called last minute to watch her or pick her up from school.
Her brother and sister-in-law are making up more lies about her.
B&SIL then started telling family members that I don’t want a relationship with my niece & I’m taking out my anger on her. They also said that I am depriving her of a safe person to pick her up if something comes up.
My parents talk to them & my brother then says that they also caught me yelling at my niece on the nanny cam.
I know this is untrue because she is a perfect angel every time I watch her. She’s truly the sweetest child! never have I even had a reason to raise my voice at my niece.
My parents were immediately suspicious of this accusation for the same reasons above & knowing how I am with children & my niece in particular. They asked if B&SIL had confronted me about this, to which they said no because I will just deny it.
Her brother and sister-in-law still want her to babysit.
Parents then said, what does a resolution look like to you, because we are not sure how to help without understanding what you want.
B&SIL replied that they want an apology for me taking my name off of the list of people that could watch their child & to be available to watch her again.
AITA for refusing to babysit my niece?
OP’s brother and sister-in-law sound crazy. First they complain about her not being a responsible babysitter. Then they are mad at her for not wanting to babysit. If they really don’t think she’s a good babysitter, they shouldn’t want her to babysit.
Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story…
OP should ask for the evidence.
OP shouldn’t babysit anymore.
It could be dangerous to babysit for her brother.
Even being alone with the niece could be a bad idea.
The parents need to apologize.
Spreading lies about someone is not a good way to make them want to babysit for you.
If you thought that was an interesting story, check out what happened when a family gave their in-laws a free place to stay in exchange for babysitting, but things changed when they don’t hold up their end of the bargain.