If you find out that your brother has been cheating on his wife, how would you react to this news?
This woman thinks her Christian mother is a hypocrite.
Her mom says not to judge him for cheating, yet she points out all her daughter’s sins.
The argument became messy and their relationship was at the verge of breaking again.
Read below to find out all the details.
AITA: My mom judges me for judging my brother for cheating on his wife
This last week, my mom (63F) told me (40F) that my step brother (36M) cheated on his wife of two years for about a year.
They have been together on/off since she was 18.
This woman shared her conversation with her mom.
Below is a summary of the conversation:
My mother, who’s Christian, stated that, “We shouldn’t judge him for cheating, because we are his family, and he needs our support rather than our judgement.”
My immediate reaction was, “The heck, I’m not! He purposefully destroyed someone’s reality, so he could stroke his ego. Cheaters get no reprieve, family or not.”
She sees her mom as a hypocrite for judging her but not her brother.
She retorted that my sins are no better than his.
I replied, “I have never initially hurt someone nor have I emotional abused someone by lying, coercion, and manipulation to get something that I wanted.”
And if she really thought that, then her moral compass is severely messed up, and she’s being a hypocrite for judging me.
Her mom said she’s being toxic.
It got to a point where she said that she was blocking me because she wanted the conversation over.
I pointed out that she’s blocking her only daughter because I disagree with her, and by doing so, she is acting hypocritical.
About 15 minutes go by, she sends, “Dumb jerk, I didn’t block you. I blocked this message.”
She then goes on to say that what I was saying was toxic.
She argued again that her mom was a hypocrite.
I point out again that she’s being a hypocrite by judging my opinions, and me calling her hypocrite as being toxic is a judgement.
She’s willing to judge me, because I don’t agree with her.
But she’s unwilling to judge her son’s actions of destroying someone’s life as toxic.
She expressed how she couldn’t trust cheaters and hypocrites.
I again point out that her moral compass and mine are not aligned, and that worries me.
I cannot trust cheaters nor hypocrites to do what’s best when it’s not in their own interest.
She felt like their relationship was on the rocks once again.
Over the last three years, we have mended our relationship from the point of me talking to her for three years prior to her not respecting my boundaries.
I feel like she’s pushing me to the edge again.
I really want to text my brother and tell him what his actions are doing to the family.
My mom would rather perish on her righteous hill than admit she’s wrong and a hypocrite.
Let’s find out how other people reacted to this story.
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This one agrees with her.
A short but honest comment here.
This user shares their opinion.
Just be done with her, says this one.
Sounds like a toxic family.
Maybe she doesn’t even care if they see her side.
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