When you’re in a marriage, finances can become a sensitive issue, especially when one partner takes on the role of breadwinner.

So, what would you do if your spouse told you to stop spending “their” money, even though they asked you to stop working?

Would you challenge them?

Or would you take a step back?

In the following story, a wife finds herself in this very scenario.

Here’s how it all went down.

AITAH? I stopped wearing/using what my husband gave me after he said that it’s his money

I (26f) have been with my husband (30m) for five years, and we got married three months ago.

I’m a housewife, and I have a little side job so I can buy what I want.

My husband has a high-paying job that covers all the utilities and bills.

After we got married, my husband insisted that I stop working altogether since his paycheck could cover everything and help us live comfortably, so I agreed.

Her husband got angry when he found out how much she spent at the grocery store.

When I got home last Monday after I bought groceries, he asked how much it was.

I told him it was $950 since he had requests and additions to the list.

If not, it would be only $850, just like every month.

After that, he got angry at me and told me to stop using his paycheck since it’s not my money.

I explained to him that I followed the list and got his request.

He didn’t listen and said that I was basically throwing it all away.

I was taken aback since I only use his money to pay the bills and utilities. I have a side job for my interests and I never ask him for anything unless I need it.

I was so angry at his accusation that after that day, I began to dig up my old stuff and use it instead, and I also stopped wearing or using his gifts.

Here’s where everyone is at now.

He confronted me and asked why.

I only said that I didn’t feel like throwing his money away.

He looked sad and left.

When I told my friends about it, they said that what I did was petty and that I should just listen.

Some of them said that I should be pettier.

My parents reprimanded me for taking things too far.

It’s been four days now, and we haven’t talked.

I’m starting to think that I really did go too far.

AITA?

Sounds like they need to have a heart-to-heart.

Let’s see what the readers over at Reddit had to say about this predicament.

As this person points out, it may only get worse.

It does seem like he’s being manipulative.

Here’s a man’s perspective.

His reaction was not okay – these are some great points.

She should get a job.

At this point, the less she relies on his money, the better.

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