Custody battles are always complicated.

This man shares how the ex-husband of his current wife is trying to ruin their life and relationship with one another.

He wants to completely ignore him, but his wife wants him to still be a part of their children’s life.

Read the full story below and weigh in.

AITA? I refuse to openly help and cooperate with my stepchildren’s bio dad who hurt all of us.

I (30M) and my wife (36F) have been together for four years.

She has two children (17F and 14M), and I have one (8F).

The biological father of the two kids has stopped visiting or being a part of their life consistently for about 8+ years now as he went to another state.

The ex-husband of this man’s wife tried to come after all 4 of them.

Six months into our relationship, my wife (girlfriend at the time) filed a custody case to reflect the fact he hasn’t been paying child support and doesn’t see his kids anymore.

It was currently set to 50/50.

The biological father went crazy, and proceeded to try and come after all four of us in different ways.

The ex-husband did a lot of crazy things, including damaging his reputation.

He called the police and tried to force the kids to leave the house with him since it’s “his week.”

And even tried to yell at them over the phone, claiming they are to blame for everything.

He attempted to damage my reputation within the military, claiming that I was some horrible person.

He made up stories to make my leadership talk to me about what was going on.

But his wife thinks the ex should still be part of the kids’ lives.

Due to all of this, the daughter has refused to acknowledge his existence and wants nothing to do with him.

This is now reflected in the current court orders.

This brings us to the question at hand.

My wife constantly wants to include the father in things for both kids—whether it be birthdays or doctor visits. Because it is “the right thing to do since they are his kids.”

Now, they’re arguing over this matter.

I have fought this to a point. And have gone as far as to not answer him when he wants to know what his daughter wants for presents since she refuses to tell him.

My wife and I have been getting into arguments lately, where she claims that I don’t understand what it is like to be distant from a daughter (which I do as noted above).

And that I’m a jerk for not trying to help bridge the gap between them.

So, AITA?

What do you think? Is he right or is his wife right? Let’s find out what others on Reddit have to say about this.

This user shares their personal thoughts.

Here’s another valid point.

We’re getting lots of NTAs here.

Here’s more advice…

And lastly, here’s someone who understands his side.

Something doesn’t feel right. He may want to rethink his marriage.

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