There is a wide range of opinions adopted people have about if they need to see their birth parents or know who they are.

The person in this story met a fellow adoptee who feels completely different than he does about it.

Check out how this led to a conflict.

AITA for telling someone to shut up and mind their own business?

My girlfriend and I were at a party at her brother’s house.

Her brother’s new girlfriend was also there and she was really interested in talking to me.

My girlfriend and I were confused by it, but I was friendly until she got super pushy and wouldn’t back off.

I’m adopted. She’s adopted.

She wanted to talk to a fellow adoptee and asked my story.

The disagreement starts here.

Once she heard about it she got really weird with me.

She asked me if I had found my parents yet and I told her I didn’t need to find them, I knew my parents.

They raised me.

She rolled her eyes and told me those were my buyers, not my parents.

For context. I had the “worst adoption” one where I was adopted at birth and my parents “bought” me.

Not quite what happened.

I explained when she questioned stuff. But she ignored me.

I was adopted privately.

My birth parents knew my parents and approached them about taking me since they didn’t want to be parents.

My parents did pay for my birth mother’s expenses and gave them some money during the rest of the pregnancy but I don’t feel bought, personally.

And I don’t feel like my parents are monsters or some evil baby-buying people.

My girlfriend told her she was being weird and it wasn’t a great way to meet us.

This person said the minute she found out I was adopted she knew we needed to meet and talk.

She tried to get her brother to intervene when his girlfriend wouldn’t leave it but he was drunk and not fit to do anything.

I tried walking away but she followed us around.

And this person won’t drop the subject.

Then she spewed all this anti-adoption stuff and insulted my parents.

I told her I was happy I was adopted.

Didn’t want to hear trash talk about my parents.

She wanted me to open my eyes and told me I’d regret not finding my real family.

I told her to stop, she doesn’t know me, she doesn’t know my family and she has no right to pester me about her opinion.

I told her to mind her own business in future because nobody should be told how they feel.

She made a scene and we left.

My girlfriend’s brother called a couple of days later and he said I really ticked off his girlfriend and why did I have to be so rude to her.

She was just trying to engage adoptee-to-adoptee.

My girlfriend told him she did a terrible job.

Then his girlfriend started texting my girlfriend to tell me I was rude without a good reason.

AITA?

Here is what folks are saying.

I think he was remarkably restrained.

I hate when people are like that. It’s so arrogant and annoying.

I hope it’s a rare thing.

Very pushy…

Absolutely. I wonder what her story is.

Too bad they’ll probably have to see her again.

I personally would avoid it at all costs.

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