When you’re the guy with a property portfolio rivaling a real estate mogul, you expect some congratulatory cheers—not a pitch for your savings account.

For one architect, his plan to buy a dream home in France turned into a family showdown when his brother suggested skipping the purchase and funding his sibling’s house instead.

Read on for the story.

AITA for buying my 5th property rather than help out my siblings?

For context, even when I (44M) was a child I was incredibly into owning property and designing houses.

I work as an architect and am doing quite well for myself.

Bought my first duplex here in Germany along time ago where I rent out both part. Then I own two houses in Italy and one in Spain. Two of them are get rented out as Holiday homes while the last one I use for vacations and rent out a room to a friend of mine.

So I have a lot of passive income at the moment, but only after a lot of time and money investments and refurbishing of these houses. (I rent in NYC at the moment as my job has moved made me move here temporarily).

Wow, so you’ve basically been playing Monopoly IRL since childhood, but instead of landing on Boardwalk, you built it. Respect.

My brother (48M) does an apartment. He has a family with two kids while my wife and I are childless. They are currently looking to purchase a house that fits all of them nicely.

While they have found their dream house, its out of budget for them. Meanwhile, my wife and I are about to buy our 5th house, this time in France. It’s going to be one of our largest purchases yet, significantly larger than anything else we have done. Its a great deal on the property however, and ideally what my wife and I want to retire in.

When having a family facetime with my siblings and parents, I brought it up. Initially very happy for me, my brother mentioned how he needs a larger home for his family and how I should give up on this opportunity to give him money for his house and spend the rest on refurbishing their new home. I just laughed and said flat out no. (Thought this was a joke.)

Ah yes, the classic “Congrats on your 5th house! Now hand over the down payment for my dream one” move. Bold strategy.

This was apparently the wrong move, my entire family turns against me and starts berating me. After 10 minutes of them taking turns telling me to buy my brother a house, I said I’d think about it and left.

I am a bit of a pushover so after talking to my wife we agreed we could wait and buy their house and rent it out to them at no profit. Apparently this was insulting to him, having his younger brother be his landlord and my parents said I should just outright give him the money we have been saving.

I told em to piss off, and started moving forward with the paperwork on our house in France. After talking to my friends, they said I should put family first and its not like we are struggling for money.

Now I am confused, AITA?

Family drama over money is a tale as old as time, but expecting someone to sideline their own plans to bankroll your dreams is bold.

Reddit didn’t exactly rush to co-sign this sibling’s request, though the comments are quite mixed.

This person says NTA.

This person says he IS the AH.

And this person says everyone is at fault here.

Well, one thing is true…

When your family thinks your bank account comes with a “charitable donations” clause, boundaries are the only mortgage-free investment you’ll need.

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