A friend came to visit from out of the country, and the host went all out to make his trip amazing.

He drove over 1,000km, setting up the perfect guest experience, and even picked him up at 4:30am.

But when it came time to chip in, the friend stayed silent, and the host wasn’t having it.

Read on for the story…

AITA for giving a friend a bill after hosting him?

A friend came to visit my country for 10 days and stayed with me and my partner.

To show his gratitude, he brought us 4 bottles of wine , around €6-8 each.

We drove him for over 1,000km for a few days to take him on adventurous trips around the country.

It’s usually expensive to rent a 4×4 and hire a tour guide here.

We were essentially his driver, tour guide and host.

We prepared a guest room for him with toiletries in his own bathroom, made all bookings, and prepared camping gear for him.

He went WAY above and beyond to make his trip special!

I thought the wine he brought would even out our “service” for him, and we picked him up at the airport at 4:30am to be a good host.

However, every time I took out my card to pay for our meals, he sat silently.

I was happy to treat him for the first meal or two as a host, but after 6 days (like 7 meals), his silence unsettled me.

The same when we had to pay for attractions, gas or groceries.

No thank you, no offering, nothing.

Just sat silently.

I admit I was never upfront with him about finances.

I just assume as an adult in his 30s with a professional job in Germany, he would offer to pay for his share, chip in, or take turns to pay for meals.

Next time, just send him a Venmo request?

He also never mentioned paying us back for the hotels we paid for him.

I consulted him on the prices before booking, so he should know he had to pay.

He only brought $200 cash here, and his hotels were already over $200.

He didn’t seem to plan to pay us back in cash.

I was antsy.

He also rented a sedan for city sightseeing in between but the car rental was at the airport.

We gave him a ride to the airport at first, and he hinted he wanted more rides from us to take him home after he dropped off the car, and a ride to the airport for his 4:20 am flight.

I told him to take a taxi, it’s less than €6.

On his last day, a few hours before he flew, he still mentioned nothing.

We presented him with a bill for his hotel, meals and groceries.

He seemed taken aback.

We told him we spared the gas in exchange for his wine.

Looks like he thought “hospitality” meant free everything.

AITAH for giving him a bill that listed out all his expenses?

As a host I should be more gracious, or upfront if I were transactional, but his silence, not even a thank you, upset me and made me give him a bill.

This person is not close to me.

We met on a trip 8 years ago and hadn’t seen each other for 6 years.

He was interested in seeing my country.

This friend was clearly shocked at receiving a bill, and now the host is wondering if they went too far.

Reddit has a few issues with both the protagonists.

This person thinks the host should’ve brought it up earlier, but that the guest really should’ve offered…

Same here…bringing it up after is an AH move.

Again, establishing some ground rules in the beginning would’ve been ideal.

Guess he thought “thank you” meant “nothing, I’ll cover it all”…

But no one’s buying that deal.

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