It’s a tough call when you see someone in need because it’s unclear what the best course of action should be.
The generous person in this story is dealing with the fallout of her generosity.
Check out what is going on.
AITA for setting boundaries and not letting a homeless girl I just met a few weeks ago sleep at my house, who I have been letting shower, giving her clothes, money, and food?
I just met this 22 year old girl about a month ago when she happened to pass by my house while I was chilling on my porch.
She needed help with a change of pants because it was her time of the month, if you catch my drift.
But her kindness wasn’t rewarded.
Over the past few weeks, I have let her shower, I’ve bought/made her dinner, given her $20 for food, given her clothes, a coat, a backpack, an iPhone charger, and a set of headphones.
She’s come over to my house sometimes unannounced to hang out and use my wifi and chat.
Unfortunately, she recently got kicked out of the shelter she was staying in for getting into a fight with another girl, so she is homeless.
And the situation has gotten out of hand.
She met some random guy (who sells drugs) on the street and has been staying with him for the past week, but was unable to go to his place tonight.
I didn’t let her stay at my house because I don’t know her very well and I don’t trust her, especially because no one else will take her in, including friends and family.
It’s going to be cold tonight and she will spend it in an abandoned house. I feel like a jerk.
AITA?
Here is what folks are saying.
People who are desperate AND strung out can be very dangerous.
It is a huge risk. She needs to get out of there.
That’s such a red flag. She has made her own bed at this point.
I don’t understand why people feel guilty about these things.
Like PCP.
She needs to get out of there.
Boundaries are necessary in every relationship.
If you liked that post, check out this story about a guy who was forced to sleep on the couch at his wife’s family’s house, so he went to a hotel instead.