When a colleague claims to be “sick” but then announces her pregnancy through the office grapevine, where’s the line between giving space and ignoring a big life change?

This colleague is now wondering if silence is the best response until the baby shower invitation arrives.

Read on for the full story.

Aita for ignoring the pregnant lady in the office

I (38F) have a work colleague (33F) who I am not like best friends with but have a decent relationship generally.

We did have some misunderstandings in the past are somewhat solved and we seem to be just fine.

We’re not that close though…

When I got pregnant couple of years ago she was amongst the first 5 colleagues to find out about my pregnancy and was nice throughout the the whole time.

Ah yes, workplace friendships—close enough to share big news, but not close enough to split an Uber.

I knew she was trying somewhat for a baby and….to my big surprise I find out couple of days ago from a different department that she is very much pregnant, and that she announced it a couple of weeks ago already.

Funny is that I’ve been asking her why she’s been missing lately and the response was “I was sick.”

This did make me think how to act exactly in this circumstances.

She’s decided not to acknowledge the pregnancy.

Pregnant people you don’t ask anything unless THEY say something… Right?

So…. AITA for deciding to ignore the pregnancy (not her) unless I am directly spoke to about it by the pregnant lady herself?

The coworker would tell her if she wanted her to know about the pregnancy, right?

What’s the right move in this situation, according to Reddit?

This person says OP did nothing wrong.

This person doesn’t think it’s a big deal at all.

And this person says NTA, but to stop overthinking it all.

Looks like “sick” was just the cover story for a bigger reveal.

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