Weddings are supposed to be a beautiful day, but behind the scenes there’s often endless family fights.

What would you do if your child was asked to be the ring bearer at a family member’s wedding but the family member later changed their mind?

That’s the situation this woman finds herself in, and she’s not sure if she made the right decision.

Let’s read all the details to decide.

AITAH for refusing to pay for my sister’s wedding after she uninvited my autistic son from being ring bearer because he ‘might ruin her day’?

I (34F) have a 6-year-old son, Liam, who’s autistic.

He’s nonverbal but loves people and gets excited in his own way—flapping his hands, making happy noises.

She’s been helping her sister with her wedding.

My sister (29F) is getting married in two months and originally asked Liam to be the ring bearer, which I was thrilled about.

I’ve been helping her plan the wedding, even agreeing to pay for the venue ($5,000) because she’s tight on money.

Her sister had a sudden change of heart.

Last week, she called me crying, saying she’d been ‘thinking it over’ and decided Liam couldn’t be ring bearer anymore.

She said she’s worried he might ‘freak out’ during the ceremony and ruin her perfect day.

I told her we could practice with him, and he’s been to events before without issues, but she wouldn’t budge.

She even suggested he not come to the wedding at all, claiming it’d be ‘too much for him.’

Liam would be really disappointed.

Liam adores her and was so excited to wear a little suit.

I got upset and said if my son isn’t welcome, I’m not paying for the venue.

Now she’s calling me selfish, saying I’m holding money over her head and ruining her wedding.

Our parents are split—Mom says I’m overreacting, Dad says she’s being cruel.

AITAH for pulling the funding?

Why help pay for a wedding where you don’t feel welcome?

Let’s see what the comments say on Reddit.

Uninviting is pretty rude regardless:

There are alternative uses for this money:

Some found the whole thing baffling:

Personally this is shaping up to be a wedding I wouldn’t want to attend.

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