It’s the worst when a neighbor keeps making noises. You either endure it, or talk to them.

In this woman’s case, she decided to try something in between and leave a note to her noisy neighbor.

But now she’s second-guessing herself.

Maybe her note sounds a bit too harsh?

Let’s analyze the situation.

AITA before I leave this note on my neighbors door?

For context, I live alone in a 6 plex apartment building.

Since I moved in my upstairs neighbor consistently vacuums around 7 am every other day.

Not just a quick vacuum once over.

She repeatedly vacuums for over an hour almost every morning.

There’s also been several times between 1-3 AM when there is an incredibly loud noise like a dumbbell being dropped on the floor above my bedroom.

That sounds very annoying.

Loud enough that it’s shaking my walls and sends my cats running and hiding.

She will also blast music during the day and at night so loud that you can hear it in the garage that’s attached to the building, this also shakes my apartment walls.

She lives on the second floor.

The cats being bothered shows how serious it is.

I work full time 12-hour shifts and I’m in school full time, I need the sleep so bad.

IMPORTANT CONTEXT: I am hearing impaired, without my hearing aides I can hear next to nothing.

So for her to able to be waking me up constantly with noises tells me that she’s being too loud.

This is a real issue, and she decided to write a note in an attempt to solve it.

I wrote the following note that I plan to leave on her door, but am wanting advice on if I’m being the ******.

We do live in an apartment building, so there’s bound to be noises.

Or maybe if it’s the sleep deprivation talking, or if this is a reasonable request, I don’t know.

Let’s see it.

NOTE:

“Hi, we haven’t met but I’m your downstairs neighbor.”

“I would ask you this face to face but I’ve had the flu for the last week.

I realize there will be noises in an apartment building, thats to be expected when we all share walls.”

“But the consistent vacuuming before its even 8 am is excessive and unnecessary.”

Uh-oh. Very categoric and judgy. Not very friendly.

“Same with the extremely loud noise between 1-3 am that sounds like you’re dropping dumbbells above my bedroom. It literally shakes my walls.”

“Normally I am not one to say anything but this has been going on for weeks and seemingly more frequently.”

“I am hearing impaired, without my hearing aides I really can’t hear much.”

“So the noise you’re making at early hours being loud enough to consistently wake me up is excessive and not ok.”

Talking this way, she will probably not be making new friends in her building.

“I work 12-hour shifts, I’m in school full time, I desperately need to sleep. Would love to resolve this without needing to involve our landlord.”

+ A threat. Wow.

“Just kindly asking you to be considerate of the person you live above and to save the vacuuming for a timeframe when most people aren’t still sleeping. Thank you”

AITA??

Assuming the person is unaware of their noise is the best course of action for the first attempt at solving the issue.

Let’s see what Reddit has to say about this.

A reader shares their take.

This commenter offers their opinion.

Simple like that.

Oh my.

Another reader chimes in.

Yup.

Everyone knows you don’t send out notes or letters that you wrote when seething.

A friendly approach will be on her side if the landlord gets involved.

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