It is traditional to take a nice honeymoon soon after you get married, but sometimes you have to delay that experience for a while.

What would you do if you decided to put off the honeymoon for a year, but now your husband keeps pushing to delay it further, even though he is willing to go on other trips?

That is the situation the wife in this story is in, and she is getting very upset about it, but her husband keeps trying to say she is being controlling.

AITA for telling my husband I’m upset about him planing repeated international trips (bachelor parties, weddings etc) but we still haven’t had a honeymoon?

We’ve been married for 3.5 years, delayed a honeymoon because we had a 4 month old baby and my husband was in an intensive school program, which we both agreed to and were on the same page about, BUT it was with the intention that it would happen in the next year.

Planning something like that can be difficult.

It didn’t, and I have brought up the topic a few times— he absolutely 100% knows it was something that was really important to me and just never seems to take it seriously enough… he will usually respond by saying “when are we going to be able to afford that though?”

Oh, this is way out of line.

The real thing that i find hurtful is that he has planned and prioritized multiple other “friend” trips and seems to be super motivated about planning for those.

He has taken a few trips for his friend’s weddings and bachelor parties in other states over the years, which is all well and good, but recently his friend wanted both of us to come with them on a couples trip to another country (it didn’t work out for other reasons) but he was adamant about trying to make it work.

He just doesn’t think the honeymoon is important.

Now he’s a groomsman in his friend’s wedding and the bachelor party is set to be in Puerto Vallerta, and he is again adamant about going (I haven’t argued that he shouldn’t. I just described my sadness over seeing how he prioritizes those trips and doesn’t acknowledge my feelings over never having a honeymoon).

He basically was like “I’m a groomsman I HAVE to go” whereas in response to my asking about our trip together it’s “yeah we can TRY to save money for that.” It just speaks volumes about where his priorities are and ngl it’s pretty heartbreaking to me. Especially because he is well aware of how important it was to me.

He sounds very selfish.

But he acts like I’m a controlling wife for expressing any kind of feelings about it, like I just don’t want him to go and have fun with his friends.

AITA?

It is one thing if you really can’t afford a honeymoon, but this is not that. He just doesn’t want to make it a priority, which is way out of line.

Check out the comments below to see what other people think about it.

This is a really good idea.

Yup, the honeymoon should come before these other trips.

This person says the husband doesn’t prioritize her at all.

No doubt about this.

A honeymoon is cheaper than a divorce.

Sadly, her husband doesn’t really like her. She needs to push forward with the honeymoon and plan it out.

Hopefully he will come along.

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