When you’re part of a big family, and everyone seems a little different to you, it’s easy to feel like you don’t fit in.

But in a good family, these differences will be celebrated, and it will be made clear that you’re loved for the things that make you unique – the things that make you you.

However, the woman in this story has seen her younger brother sidelined time and time again for being different, and finally she’s had enough.

Read on to find out what finally made her flip in defense of her little brother.

AITA for telling off my ‘future’ sister in law when she didn’t want to invite my younger brother to her wedding?

I am 23 and female, and have an older brother, Drew (26), who is getting married at the end of this summer.

To say it lightly me and his fiancee, Lacy (25, female), do not get along. She’s very stuck up and has made some snide comments to me and my younger brother, Max who is 16.

For context Max has always been the black sheep of the family.

He is very academically and artistically talented, but my father and mother are disappointed in his lack of sports (cliche I know) – not to mention they’ve long favored my sister, his twin, Caroline (16, female).

Let’s see how this slow-growing family drama blew up.

Max and Lacy were civil for a while, but I guess I haven’t seen them speak in a long time for reasons unknown to me.

The problem occurred last night when I was asking Lacy about the wedding and how the planning was going.

She started telling me her seating chart and showing me what she had planned.

I was looking at the chart and Max’s name was nowhere to be found.

I don’t love Lacy but I’m not going to assume the worst of her, so I asked her where Max’s name was and she got suddenly quiet.

Uh-oh. Read on to find out how Lacy responded.

“He’s not going to be there,” she said.

“You mean not in the wedding party?” I asked.

“No, he’s not invited.” She said it so calmly I’d assume she was talking about the weather.

I kept asking her why she wouldn’t invite him but invited Caroline.

She just said that she feels Caroline is more mature because she is a girl.

Yikes! This woman was really confused by the blatant favoritism of Caroline and shunning of Max.

This wedding isn’t going to be child free, Lacy has stated this multiple times. I have many little cousins who are being invited, since family is very important to us.

Not inviting Max makes no sense. He is a very nice kid, and very mature for his age. Much more mature than Caroline.

He never causes problems, but like I mentioned earlier, there are some big issues with him not following Drew’s and my dad’s footsteps in football.

I know Lacy is very desperate for my family’s approval so maybe outlining Max is the way to do it for her but I have a feeling there’s something more to it.

Let’s see how she reacted to the decision not to invite Max, after the confusion had passed.

After what Lacy said about not inviting Max, I stood up and started yelling at her for not including Max, while she kind of ignored what I was saying.

But when I escalated, Drew came over. As he was walking over she started to cry and make a bigger scene about it.

Drew knelt down to comfort her and gave me dirty looks.

Once she was inside, he turned to me and started yelling at me about being rude to her, when she is under so much stress from planning the wedding and trying to get my family to like her.

I understand that my family is close knit and kind of not welcoming to newcomers, but that doesn’t excuse her behavior and I told my brother so.

I asked him why he didn’t want to invite Max and he just told me to stay out of it (classic move of him). He called me a jerk for treating Lacy like that, then walked out.

We haven’t spoken since last night.

Read on to find out how this woman feels in the aftermath of the fight.

I understand that yelling at her was a bit much and I could have handled the situation differently, but I am sick of seeing Max being left out and treated badly.

I don’t want to fight with Drew, but I’m standing my ground for Max’s sake.

Max also doesn’t know about any of this yet and I’m hesitant to tell him.

My parents have stayed out of it so far but Drew is still set on being mad at me.

AITA?

This is an absolutely toxic situation, and seemingly a totally toxic family.

Firstly, Lacy shouldn’t have to ‘get the family to like her’ – the lack of acceptance of newcomers is hugely problematic. Why would anyone want to be part of such a hostile family in the first place?

Secondly, refusing to invite one sibling is completely out of line, especially when he’s done nothing wrong.

Let’s see what Reddit thought about this.

This person agreed that the whole situation was unfair and nonsensical.

While others called out the family completely.

And this Redditor offered a nice solution for Max and his older sister.

She’s all he’s got.

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