Two can play at that game!

What’s a woman supposed to do if her “best friend” suddenly tells her that she doesn’t want her to be a bridesmaid in her wedding anymore?

Well, this Reddit user had that happen to her and she decided to ditch out on the event altogether.

Was she wrong?

Let’s see what she had to say…

AITA for not going to my best friend’s wedding?

“I (25F) & my husband (27M) got married 5 years ago & have been trying to get pregnant for the last 3 years. That’s around the time I met my best friend, Allie (27F).

It was a happy foursome!

Her boyfriend (30M) & my husband were also best friends & we did everything together. Her boyfriend proposed & she asked me to be a bridesmaid & the boyfriend asked my husband to be the best man.

There was one day we were at a bar, talking about my fertility appointments that I had, she said “If you get pregnant, I want you to know you won’t be in my wedding” laughing.

This past summer we went on a trip & we were doing everything they wanted to do so by about day 4 I told my husband “I paid over $3,000 for this cruise, so I’m not just going to sit at the same bar every night” which he agreed to.

She got big news!

Everything was still fine. But I found out I was pregnant two weeks later & I told her because I was excited. Then three weeks later I miscarried & I called her sobbing & she started talking about her upcoming wedding & she asked if I had bought my bridesmaid dress yet.

I was confused but told her yes.

A couple months later, I’m still getting fertility treatments & I found out I was pregnant again. My husband & I were super excited and wanted to share it with our best friends. Then at 16 weeks I miscarried.

But when I called her this time, she brushed it off & told me to sell my baby stuff for a profit. Then a couple of days later I get a phone call asking if I know anything about the bridal shower (Side note: it was hard keeping up with both group chats while I was working and going to school. I barely replied but knew what was happening).

I told her that the only thing mentioned in the text was a theme & what to wear.

She got the boot from the wedding.

She told me that both events had been planned by two bridesmaids in the group chat that she was not in & that I was still more than welcome to come to the wedding but “with everything I was going through” she didn’t think I should be a part of the wedding.

Fast forward a couple weeks my husband receives a text that stated he no longer needs to be the best man & that they still wanted us to be there. I think this started when we both said we wouldn’t be able to attend the bachelor/bachelorette trips because I was pregnant & needed to save money & the trip was going to be $3,500+.

Then one day I got off of work & went to see my husband at an event when I was approached by a mutual friend, Sarah (30F) & she began to berate me for not going to the bridal shower & stated that I was a bad friend & I should’ve sucked it up & gotten over myself to be there for her.

This was getting ugly.

I asked Sarah what she was talking about & was told that she was told at the party. I tried to defend myself &tell her my “side” Sarah told me there are no sides & that I should’ve put my feelings to the side to be there for our “mutual friend”.

This put a bad taste in my mouth & I felt uncomfortable. In the end, we ended up not going to the wedding because 1. I didn’t feel comfortable 2. We were both removed from the wedding parties.”

Let’s see how Reddit users reacted.

This person said she’s NTA.

Another individual shared their thoughts.

This Reddit user spoke up.

Another individual weighed in.

And this Reddit user said she’s NTA.

These two probably need to reconsider their friendship, to be honest…

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