His Ex Asked Him To Do Her A Favor By Taking Their Son To A Doctor’s Appointment, But She Got Mad That He Accessed Her Property When He Came To Pick Up Their Son

Sarrah Murtaza

6 months ago

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Raising a kid is hard. It’s even harder when you’re coparenting.

Imagine having 50/50 custody of your child, but your ex gets mad at you when you’re actually doing her a favor. Would you apologize, or would you explain your side of the story?

This guy shares how his ex accused him of accessing her property without her permission, but he doesn’t think that’s what happened at all.

Check out what happened.

AITA “Property Access without Permission.”

My ex-wife asked me for help during her half of the summer (we are 50/50 custody) to take our 8 year old son to a doctor’s appointment, as she and her husband had too much work.

As I hadn’t seen him in a couple of weeks, I jumped at the chance to get a night/day hanging with him.

Yesterday, when I got to her house for pickup, which has a large driveway gate, I noticed the side gate walk-in door was open a bit.

They always leave the driveway gates closed.

Things seemed fine at first

As I got out of the car, I heard my son talking and saying good bye. I’ve met them there/entered there before on a few occasions. Nothing new.

I walked to the little door, opened it as my son was coming out, and greeted him.

My ex-wife told me his insurance card was in his pocket.

I said thanks and we were on our way. Seemed friendly enough.

But there was a problem.

Today, I dropped him off at 4:50, said good byes, etc.

Tonight at 9, I get the following message in our co-parenting system, titled “Property Access without Permission.”

At first I thought, “this has to be for someone else, right?” Then I remembered me opening the gate for my son, and realized, “Oh, JFC!”

I don’t even know how to respond to this and I’m wondering am I TA here? She has walked in my house without asking, has no issue walking right up to my door, and I’ve been to her door more than a few times.

He was not expecting that!

This is the first time anything has been said about this, but it’s their place, so they can have whatever rules they want 🫡 I’m just curious AITA?

Here’s the message:

“I want to be clear about a firm boundary moving forward: please do not enter our property without explicit permission. Just because a door is open doesn’t mean entry is welcome or permitted. We understand yesterday may not have been intended to cause harm, but to avoid any confusion, we need to be very clear: this rule won’t change. If it happens again, we’ll have to treat it seriously and take appropriate steps to ensure our safety and privacy. We appreciate your understanding and respecting this boundary.”

YIKES! That sounds tricky!

Did he cross the line, or is his ex overreacting?

Let’s find out what people on Reddit think about this one.

This user knows that this guy’s ex is playing some power game here.