Imagine helping out a friend by letting them borrow an outfit from your closet so they have something fabulous to wear to an upcoming event.

What would you do if you found out they loaned some of your things to another one of her friends and didn’t even ask you if it was okay or not? Would you be happy to share or furious at her for treating your stuff like a library?

In today’s story, one woman is caught in this situation, and she’s so upset that the friendship’s over. Did she overreact?

Let’s read the whole story.

AITA for expecting a heads up before my friend let a stranger wear my things?

So here’s the situation.

A friend of mine had an event coming up and didn’t have time to shop.

No problem, I offered to let her borrow some clothes and gave her plenty of options.

She was thrilled, found a look she loved, wore it, and looked amazing.

I was happy to help. She was happy. Win-win.

But then she saw something strange on Instagram.

Fast forward two weeks later.

I’m scrolling Instagram and see a video she posted with someone else (a friend of hers I don’t even know) wearing my things.

I was floored. Not even a text? No heads up?

I messaged her: I pray those aren’t my things.

No response.

She tried again.

Six hours go by, still nothing.

So I follow up: Just drop my stuff off at the door today. A heads up would’ve been nice.

Could my delivery have been better? Sure. But this wasn’t the first time something like this happened, where basic communication could’ve prevented any reaction at all.

We’re no longer friends.

Her former friend made excuses.

She said she was going through some things and “forgot to ask.” That she’s been dealing with health issues and wasn’t in the space to deal with me communicating a boundary.

But at this point, I’m exhausted.

I’m tired of expressing myself only for it to be labeled as too much or confrontational when all I’m doing is honoring my boundaries.

She considers herself kind, but she’s also not a doormat.

And let me be clear—I’m chill. I’m kind. Especially to people that hold near and dear to my heart.

But I’m also no longer going to sit back when it comes to respect. Especially when it involves people I don’t know wearing things that belong to me.

So now I’m here asking: Was I wrong? Was I too harsh? Or is it just too much to ask for a simple heads up when it comes to my things?

Curious to hear your thoughts.

Her friend was out of line to loan out something that wasn’t hers to loan out.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

This is how it should work.

Her lack of reply is telling.

Her friend really messed up.

This person explains boundaries.

Locks can be helpful.

This was one step away from stealing.

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