Talking with strangers can be uncomfortable, no matter how harmless the questioning seems to be. There are also people who just don’t want to talk, period.

See why this woman is second guessing the wall she put up with a guy.

AITA for telling someone I don’t like talking about work

I was at the bar last night with a friend. I live in a small town, and we’re all pretty social so usually when we go out we mingle with strangers a lot.

A couple guys came over to talk to me and my friend, one was talking to my friend and the other guy was talking to me. Just general small talk like if we were local, asking about if we were attending a local festival coming up, stuff like that.

But it wasn’t all welcome chatter.

Then he began asking me about work, like what I do for work.

I work as a salon coordinator and I like my job, but I generally don’t like talking about work when I’m not working, I find this helps me keep personal life and work life separate which I used to have a hard time doing. Plus I’ve had an instance of someone showing up to my work after meeting me at a club because “I disappeared before he could get my number” and it made me uncomfortable and made the other employees uncomfortable.

He asked what I do, then he asked what salon I work at. He seemed interested and asked me about what I do at work, like what tasks I perform. I honestly find people ask me about this a lot and I just don’t really like talking about it. I find it boring and uncomfortable to explain, I’m not sure why.

So I said “I do a lot, I don’t really wanna talk about work though because I’m just trying to have a fun night out.” Or something along those lines I can’t remember if it was that word for word.

It has led to bad feelings.

He seemed kind of awkward after that and he just said “Oh.” Then we were silent for a few minutes before he tapped his friend and said they should go get another drink and we interact with those guys again.

My friend acted surprised and asked why I was being so agitated with that guy because he seemed nice and we were having a nice conversation. I don’t think I was being crabby at all but now I’m wondering if I came across as rude?

Sometimes when I’ve been drinking I’ve had issues with people thinking I get sassy but I think I’m usually just a pushover and I set boundaries better when I’m tipsy.

Here is what people are saying.

Who says she has to accept him?

It would be less awkward, but who cares?

It’s not her responsibility to keep a conversation going. If she doesn’t want to, she shouldn’t.

What if she is on the autism spectrum? What if she’s just not interested?

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