If you have enough extra room, it’s nice to offer a family member a place to stay when they’re in a tough spot, but should you feel obligated to let them move in with you indefinitely?

In today’s story, one man let his sister stay with him and his wife for a few days, but now his sister wants to move in permanently.

He hates this idea.

Keep reading for all the details.

AITAH for not letting my sister move in to my house after she discovered a man looking in her bedroom window

Backstory: My sister (34F) lives by herself in a small apartment in the city.

Last week, she got a notification from her security camera that there was motion outside her window.

She comes to find out that there’s a man standing outside of her bedroom window and he ended up being there for 30 minutes.

She called my wife (31F) and myself (31M) before calling the police and we told her that she could come stay with us at least through the weekend.

There are multiple reasons he doesn’t want her staying with them much longer.

At the end of the weekend, she said that she wasn’t comfortable moving back into her own place and asked if she would be able to move in with us.

We said that she could stay for another week, but that it probably wouldn’t work for us because we have our first baby coming in late September/early October. It’s a new time of life where we are getting a new “roommate” and we don’t know if we are ready to have another roommate that would be with us during a potentially vulnerable time of life.

In addition to that, we have been renovating 2 of the 3 bedrooms in our house (nursery and our bedroom) which have required some drywall repairs due to some water damage.

I’m doing this work myself and we were planning on using our extra bedroom during this repairs since we wouldn’t be able to sleep in the work zones.

She also isn’t very tidy, has a really strong smell and will borrow things and never return them, which I think would probably grind on us in the long term.

He thinks there are other options that would work better.

With that said, we recommended that we install motion sensor flood lights, outdoor cameras, window bars and a fence to add more protection.

Alternatively, she could get another apartment, but her current one is only $500 per month for the whole apartment, where other options living with roommates would be $800-900 per month for a room.

She’s also trying to save up to move to the LA and she doesn’t make a ton of money right now.

He’s seriously brainstorming options here!

We do have other family members that live in the same state, but they either live too far away from where she works or those would family members would be difficult to live with.

So with that said, AITAH? and if I am, any recommendations on what I could/should do?

One additional idea I had: my step-sister has camper(that my sister has lived in before) and I said that we potentially could move that to the side of the house and have her stay there and still use our bathrooms.

She didn’t like that idea and doesn’t really want to live in a trailer/camper again

It’s nice that he wants to help his sister out, but he doesn’t have to agree to let her live with his growing family. He has thought of quite a few other options.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

This person thinks it would be a bad idea to let her move in.

Another person likes his phrasing.

This person is skeptical.

This is a good suggestion!

This person thinks his sister should go back home.

He wants the best for his sister but not at the expense of his own family.

If you thought that was an interesting story, check out what happened when a family gave their in-laws a free place to stay in exchange for babysitting, but things changed when they don’t hold up their end of the bargain.