Hey, so, some people don’t want to have kids.

Some people can’t have kids. There’s all kinds of reasons someone ends up not having kids.

LET THEM BE.

Don’t end up creating a situation like this:

aitah for telling my dad i’m not wasting 18 years of my life on some kid because he wants a grandchild?

i F17 get calls from my dad every 2 weeks (he’s in prison).

Every single time the topic of my future after college is brought up it’s “oh i want a grandkid, when you find the right one you’ll want kids” mind you he has two other daughters…

But she um…she doesn’t feel great about kids.

i HATE kids i despise them.

i will never ever EVER want to be a mother, but my father is obsessed with the idea.

since im the oldest daughter he’s always like “well since your the oldest you have to give me the first grandchild” i tell him everytime i hate kids.

i even had to explain to him if the possibility came up of me being pregnant i would not keep it.

today when we called the topic of family was brought up and i told him i hate kids like always.

That seems pretty clear cut.

But apparently it’s not.

he said “well i want a grandson” i told him im not going to throw away 18 years of my life for a child i know i dont want.

he said give it to him then and i told him he chose the streets over his daughters why would i give him another kid?

he got really mad then just said he loves me and hung up.

i personally feel like i didnt say anything wrong because my father isnt the only person to say this. my family has the idea that its just a phase im going through when its not i really hate kids.

Pregnancy just isn’t for her.

i would never want to put my body through the struggles of pregnancy, and i honestly don’t care how rude it sounds.

i have no personal beef with anyone who chooses to be mothers like congrats to you!!

but i know for me as a person i dont want them EVER.

A little goes too long a way.

i can babysit sure but having my own yeah no!!

i’ve never been interested in being a mother and i never will be.

i know i hurt his feelings but i feel like if i don’t stand my ground the message will never get across.

so aitah?

Let’s check in with the comments:

You’ve gotta live your own life.

You’re too young for this.

He’s not in the right here.

That’s a lot of yikes coming from behind those bars.

Turn and walk away.

If you liked that story, read this one about grandparents who set up a college fund for their grandkid because his parents won’t, but then his parents want to use the money to cover sibling’s medical expenses.