Family names can carry a lot of weight, especially when traditions clash with modern choices.

So, what would you do if you and your spouse agreed on giving your baby both last names, only for your in-laws to explode and accuse you of destroying their family legacy?

Would you back down to keep the peace? Or would you stick to your decision?

In the following story, one couple finds themselves dealing with this exact predicament.

Here’s the full scoop.

AITA for wanting my last name to be first in my baby’s name?

I (23f) and my husband (24m) are expecting a baby due in early 2026.

For some background, my husband comes from a culture where it is customary for individuals to only carry the husband’s last name.

In mine, we have both the last names of our parents.

To the issue at hand, I’ve had numerous conversations with my husband, and I explained to him that I want my last name to be first for our baby for a number of personal reasons.

My husband is fully on board-his family isn’t.

My in laws, whom we live with (long story) have asked us to reveal the name of our baby to them. We have refused time and time again.

His family got angry when they found out the baby’s name.

However, my husband and I got so tired of this being an everyday pest to the point where we just told them.

When we told them that our baby’s last name was (mine)(his), they flipped. They began to berate us, more specifically me, about how I could possibly think they’d accept this.

They went on and on about how I was ending their (husband’s last name) lineage.

It never occurred to me that this would be a legitimate problem, as this is something between my husband and me.

AITA?

Yikes! It’s easy to see both sides of this, but the in-laws may be taking it a little too far.

Let’s see what the folks over at Reddit think about naming a baby.

It seems like they’ll have both names incorporated.

Answers to these questions would’ve helped some people understand the situation better.

For this reader, the name is up to the husband and wife.

Yet another person who feels the in-laws don’t get a say.

The in-laws need to back off. As long as she and her husband agree, that’s all that matters.

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