Keeping your social security number safe is important, so when someone (even your mom) asks for it, it makes sense to wonder why.

What would you do if when you asked your mom why she needed the card, she refused to say more than just that it was for ‘paperwork?’

That is what is happening to the daughter in this story, so she is refusing to give her the card, but it is causing tension in the relationship.

AITA for refusing to give my mom my Social Security card when she wouldn’t explain what she needed it for?

This week has already been tense between me and my mom from the last story, I been basically been giving her the silent treatment all week.

How old is this person?

Out of nowhere, she asked me to give her my Social Security card. I said no, she asked again and I asked why, and she wouldn’t tell me what she need it for just walked away.

There was no argument. There was no back and forth She just walked away.

It is weird that she won’t say why she wants it.

Later, I was upstairs doing my work, and when I came down to make food she brought it up again.

She asked why I was being “snippy” with her when she asked for my social, and I told her it’s because she never told me what she needed it for.

That could be legitimate, but not necessarily.

She only said it was for “paperwork” she’s not clarifying what paperwork

Then she goes, “If I wanted to use your Social Security number for something bad I would’ve done it without asking you.”

Yikes, that is a weird thing to say.

Like, wow, thanks?? That makes me trust you even more now, but the whole time I was just quiet and not really responding because I wanted to go upstairs and eat my oatmeal.

She kept saying I was being snippy and making it a bigger deal, and that she shouldn’t have to walk on eggshells whenever she asks me for something, but I literally gave her minimal responses besides “no” and “what do you need it for?”.

I can’t imagine why she wouldn’t just tell her.

And after a long one sided conversation with a bunch of pauses in between like she expected me to respond, I just went upstairs to eat my oatmeal because she still hasn’t explained to me what she needed my Social Security card for besides the bare minimal of ‘paperwork”.

So, AITA for not trusting her with my Social Security card and refusing until she actually tells me why she needs it?

AITA?

I think it very much depends on how old this person is, but regardless, the mom should just tell her what she needs the card for.

Let’s see what the people in the comments have to say about it.

Good suggestion.

Yikes, that would be awful.

This is good advice.

This commenter thinks mom is applying for a loan.

Yeah, if it was something normal, she would say what.

Something suspicious is going on.

If you thought that was an interesting story, check this one out about a man who created a points system for his inheritance, and a family friend ends up getting almost all of it.