New mothers should always be recognized for their strength and sacrifices as new parents.

Imagine being a new mom, and your mother-in-law goes on and on about your husband (her son) being a new dad but hardly even acknowledges your role as a new mom. Would this bother you?

This woman had just given birth to her and her husband’s first child.

Instead of being supportive, her mother-in-law has been overlooking her role.

She only acknowledges her husband and only gives gifts to him for being a “new father.”

She finally had enough, but she’s wondering if she was too harsh.

Read the full story below for all the details.

AITA 34F for telling my 64F MIL that if she continually ignores my role as my daughter’s mother she will no longer be welcome in her life?

My husband (38M) and I (34F) just had our first baby, a beautiful 4-month-old daughter.

We’re over the moon.

However, my MIL has been a constant thorn in my side.

She’s an amazing grandma, don’t get me wrong, but she consistently ignores me as a parent and only acknowledges my husband’s role.

This woman thinks she is being overlooked as the mother of their child.

She asks him how he’s adjusting to fatherhood, and even invited him out to a concert without including me, saying it’s because he’s been working hard and is a great father.

Um, hello? I’m the one who carried this baby for 9 months and pushed her out. And I am now caring for her full-time as a SAHM.

Her mother-in-law gave her husband a gift 4 days after she gave birth.

The final straw was when she showed up at our home just 4 days after I gave birth.

She gave my husband a gift geared towards him as a first-time father without even acknowledging me or my role as a new mom.

My husband spoke with her about it.

He suggested that if she wants to support him, she could babysit our daughter, or she could give us tickets to an event together as a couple, so we can both get a break and spend some quality time together.

Her MIL made a snide comment.

But she got defensive and made some snide comment about “a son being a son until he takes a wife.”

She implied that it would be disloyal to me for him to accept a gift from her.

It’s clear to me that she’s manipulative and trying to drive a wedge between my husband and me.

But luckily, I married a great and loyal husband who puts our little family first and always defends me to his mom. He’s stood up for me and made it clear that he values our relationship and our family unit.

She feels like her MIL is intentionally excluding her.

She’s shown a clear disparity in how she treats us.

She buys my husband expensive gifts for his birthday while I got a simple text on my birthday.

My parents live in another country, so I thought my MIL would make an extra effort to support us as a couple, but it feels like she’s intentionally excluding me.

She finally had enough, so she threatened her MIL that she won’t get to see their daughter.

AITA for feeling frustrated with my MIL’s behavior and expecting her to treat me as an equal partner in parenting?

I could be the jerk because I finally had enough and told my MIL I will not allow her around my daughter, especially if she can’t acknowledge my role as the mother in my daughter’s life.

I’m not going to allow my daughter to be around that as she gets older, seeing her mom being consistently overlooked.

I could be the jerk because my consequence may have been too harsh.

Was she too harsh, or did her MIL deserve to be put in her place?

Let’s find out what others have to say about this on Reddit.

This user shares their personal thoughts.

Here’s a harsh but honest opinion.

This person understands why her MIL acts that way.

Your mom needs to step up, says this user.

Finally, this person thinks it shouldn’t be an issue.

A mother deserves just as much recognition as a father in raising a child.

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