Imagine being pregnant and excited to plan your baby shower.

What would you do if your sisters insisted that they should plan the shower for you?

Would you trust them to plan a baby shower you’ll love, or would you want to hold onto the control?

In this story, one pregnant woman finds herself in this situation, and she really wants to plan everything on her own.

However, she’s wondering if that’s the wrong thing to do.

Let’s read the whole story.

AITA for telling my sisters I want to plan my own baby shower instead of letting them do it?

So I (F, pregnant with my first) recently told my two sisters that I want to plan my own baby shower.

I texted in our group chat that I’d decided on a date, and they both got upset, saying “that’s what the sisters are supposed to do.”

Here’s the thing: both of them have already had baby showers and I was never included in the planning.

She really wasn’t involved in the baby showers at all.

For my oldest sister’s first baby, the shower was canceled because she delivered early.

For her second baby I wasn’t asked to help, I was just told about it.

Same thing for my other sister.

That’s three showers total where I wasn’t part of the process, just expected to show up.

All she wants if for her shower to be about her not her sisters.

When I pointed this out, they gave me their reasons about why I wasn’t involved at the time (I.e. too young to contribute, not being financially able to contribute, or being located in a different city).

One of my points was that regardless of means to contribute or geographic distance, it was decided for me that I didn’t need to be a part of the planning.

Now they seem to think my shower has to be about them and what they want, even though I wasn’t given the same courtesy.

I told them I do want their input and involvement, but I also want to be in charge of the planning since this is my first baby and something I’ve looked forward to.

My oldest sister responded that it was something she had been looking forward to since we shared the news and my other sister just stopped responding altogether.

She’s not sure what to do.

I get that maybe I’m being unfair.

Traditionally, sisters plan the shower, and by taking over, it might seem like I don’t trust them or I’m not letting them celebrate me.

I also realize I didn’t ask them first. I just told them my decision. Which could make them feel excluded, the very thing I’m upset about from the past.

So, AITA for telling them I want to plan my own baby shower instead of letting them take control, especially since I wasn’t included in theirs?

Is it traditional for sisters to plan baby showers?

In my experience, friends plan baby showers.

Either way, all she did was tell her sisters about her shower in the same way her sisters simply told her about their showers. S

he’s treating them the same way they treated her.

Let’s see how Reddit thinks she should handle this situation.

She has already explained her reasoning.

I agree. I’ve never heard of anyone throwing their own baby shower.

This person makes a good point.

A pregnant woman shares her perspective.

She may regret planning her own baby shower.

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