Birthday gifts are supposed to be a thoughtful reminder that the people you love really know you.

Would you be upset if your spouse was in a gift giving rut and kept giving you the same types of gifts over and over again even though you didn’t want them?

In this story, one man’s birthday turned tense when his husband told him what he wanted to get him for his birthday.

You’ll want to keep reading for this one.

AITA by telling my spouse what I don’t want to receive on my birthday?

My (40ishM) birthday is coming up.

My spouse (50ishM) has a habit of surprising me with something on my birthday, which is nice of course!

But it wasn’t that nice.

But in the past years, he has gifted me board games and statues of my favorite comic book character, while I explicitly told him I do not want either of those things.

Reasons: we have plenty of games we still have to play, and we’re running out of space to display the figurines.

Last year, he gifted me a figurine anyway. It was a nice figurine and I liked it; however, I also told him I’d rather have gotten something else instead.

And this year didn’t prove to be any better.

Today, he asked me what I thought about a specific board game he thinks I will like to get for my birthday.

I told him I don’t want it. It’s a board game I’m not interested in, and I just don’t want any more board games.

His husband decides to take this in the worst possible way.

He’s angry now and calling me very ungrateful and impossible to find gifts for. He’s “done with this.”

He told me I should just make a “groceries list” with stuff I want then (I do have a wishlist, by the way).

So, AITA?

What a dilemma. A wish list is a reasonable solution.

Redditors chime in with their thoughts.

It sounds like things have gotten way too emotionally charged for a productive conversation.

The husband is definitely going about this the wrong way.

Has the hubby completely lost sight of the spirit of gift giving?

Maybe there are bigger problems on this couple’s plate than just an unwanted gift.

A better gift would have been hubby enrolling in some active listening courses.

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