Imagine losing your father at a young age, and your mom eventually remarries. Would you be willing to get to know her new husband and possibly even consider him a father figure, or would you hate him no matter what he said or did?

In this story, one teenage boy is in this situation, and he hates his stepdad so much that he left home and is living with his grandparents. His mom wants them to reconcile, but he doesn’t want that at all.

Let’s read the whole story.

AITA for refusing to try and repair the relationship with my mom and her husband so I could know my half siblings?

My dad died when I (18m) was 9. When I was 11 my mom brought home a guy and told me they were engaged.

He told me he was looking forward to being my dad and getting to know his first son.

My response was you’ll never be my dad followed by telling them I wasn’t ever going to let them pretend he’s my dad.

My mom told me I should give it a shot and she was marrying him regardless of what I wanted and he would be my new dad.

They really thought he’d come around.

Her (now) husband told me I’d see their reasons for not giving me a choice in time.

And I told him I wasn’t going to listen to him and I even told him to leave me alone and he couldn’t ever talk to me again.

They laughed it off but I refused to acknowledge him whenever he came over and four months after mom brought him home for the first time, she told me he wasn’t going to accept such disrespect from me. She told me I needed to lose the attitude.

And I told her he’ll never be my dad.

At least he had somewhere else to go.

So I was sent to my paternal grandparents.

My mom tried to make me give in so it wouldn’t happen but I told her I was never going to accept him and that she was replacing dad and never really loved him.

Mom tried telling me it wasn’t fair.

I said that if she loved dad she’d never force me to call someone else dad.

He basically went no contact with his mom.

I spent the rest of my childhood being raised by my paternal grandparents and I still live with them.

My mom and I didn’t really have contact after that. She invited me to the wedding but I didn’t go and I didn’t ever call or text or try to see her.

She has two kids with her husband now. She’d text me to say she was pregnant and offered for me to come and meet the babies but I always said no. And I told her not to send me photos because I didn’t care.

His mom wants them to be close again.

Mom told me when I was 16 she expected my mind would change.

But I guess it didn’t happen like she expected because she told me she hates this distance between us and I should know the kids.

I told her I don’t care about her kids and I don’t want anything to do with her new family.

She said that’s grief talking.

It was more than just grief.

I told her it was disgust and disappointment in her talking and disdain for the man she married who thought he could replace a kid’s dead dad.

I told her they should be happy together because I was never going to let them forget my dad if I was in their lives and I would never let them forget I’m not his kid.

A week after I told her all that she told me she had set up an appointment for the three of us with a therapist. She sent me the date and time and told me to please come and work on our relationship and save our family. She said even if I can never forgive the two of them I could at least work on figuring out how to be the brother her kids need. She said surely I want to be a brother to them.

I answered with one word; no.

Therapy didn’t go how his mom had hoped.

I didn’t attend the appointment and she called and called afterward and eventually texted me that she finds me really cruel. She said her kids never asked for this and that I should want her to be happy and glad she could build herself back after dad.

I told her she knew what the problem was and she was ignoring it but I never would.

When she tried to say I could have two dads and her husband just wanted to make me feel loved I said forget her husband he didn’t even matter to me.

I told her at least the two of them could take comfort in how easy they’d be to replace if they die.

AITA?

They need to stop referring to the stepdad as his new dad. If they backed off, maybe they wouldn’t have literally pushed him away.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

This person thinks it’s completely understandable that he’s angry.

This is a good point!

His mom is only thinking about what she wants.

I’m sure the half siblings don’t really care.

His mom sounds really selfish.

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