Marriage is all about compromise, but sometimes one person seems unwilling to compromise and bulldozes their spouse.

Imagine having your in-laws come to visit from another country. Would you be okay with them staying at your house? Would it matter if they wanted to stay for a month or longer?

In this story, one woman is in this exact situation, and she is not okay with her in-laws staying for more than a week or two max. The problem is that her husband doesn’t seem to care about her feelings on the matter.

Let’s read the whole story.

AITA – Not wanting in-laws to stay for extended trips

AITA??? For context, my husband and I live in the US. His family is from South Africa, and because of this we don’t get to see them often.

I feel for him and the sacrifices he makes living so far from them, but I struggle with the differences he and I have regarding our home and visitation.

This is a lot to expect.

When his brother came to the states for college, he would move in with us for months at a time between semesters. We were responsible for paying for the additional expenses of him staying with us, for example, food.

It was never really asked of me if he could stay, just expected.

Fast forward to us having a baby, and MIL insisted on staying for three months once the baby was born.

Her opinion didn’t matter.

I fought this, as I wanted this precious time with my first child, but I lost because “in their culture, that is what grandmas do.”

I was a mess the entire time and felt like I was disrespected and robbed of a precious time.

It also made me resent her.

Her husband is ignoring her wishes again.

MIL now wants to come back 8 months later, and stay for a month.

I told my husband this was not okay with me, and I felt like a week was more appropriate. Mind you, we cannot take off work or really change our routine.

He disagreed and to compromise, we came to the decision of two weeks.

Now I’m finding out she already booked her flight tickets for the entire month and won’t change them because of cost. I was told by husband’s brother, not even my husband.

She has multiple reasons she doesn’t want her in-laws staying with them for so long.

We argued and he told me it’s always a fight, I make him be a bad son, and that I broke his heart because “it’s family.”

I don’t hate my in-laws, but I’m extremely introverted and have an incredibly hard time with change in routine and people in my space. I can’t decompress or “turn off” when someone is living in my home.

I work an incredibly stressful job on top of taking care of a baby.

AITA for fighting this fight?

Is a hotel really too much to ask? If the MIL won’t stay in a hotel, maybe OP should get a hotel for herself so she can decompress.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

Her husband is the real problem.

Here’s a vote for marriage counseling.

Her husband may not be telling her the truth.

This person thinks 2 weeks is a good compromise.

Another person emphasizes the importance of boundaries.

Marriage counseling and boundaries are key.

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