Respecting elders can be an important part of how someone was raised.

This woman was raised to always address her elders formally, including her parents and extended family.

She noticed that one of her friends repeatedly called her mother by her first only,

So she called her out and told her to be more respectful.

Read the full story below to find out more.

AITA for Calling Out My Friend in Front of My Mom?

I have a friend (35F) who calls my mom by my mom’s first name, “Sarah”, instead of “Ms. Sarah”.

I find it highly disrespectful.

I’m from an area where I grew up saying, “Yes/no, ma’am/sir” to my elders.

I don’t call them by their first name without adding Mr./Ms. in front of it.

This woman’s friends and family members follow the same format of addressing older people.

I am the same with family members (uncles and aunts) where I would say “Aunt…” or “Uncle…”.

The only time it’s allowable is if it’s a close friend and they tell me it makes them feel old.

All of my friends, except for this one, follow the same format.

My sibling’s friends follow the “Mr./Ms.” format also.

She called out her friend and told her to stop calling her mom by her first name.

My friend was raised differently.

They call everyone by their first name. Family or friends, it doesn’t matter.

The first time it happened, I could see my mom cringe, but she didn’t say anything.

The next time it happened, my mom just smiled and still didn’t say anything.

The 3rd time it happened, I called my friend out in front of my mom.

I told her, “Stop calling her by her first name unless you put a ‘Ms.’ in front of it because it’s disrespectful.”

Her friend brushed it off and apologized to her mom.

My friend brushed it off and said, “That’s how I was raised.”

But she apologized to my mom “if it offended her.”

My mom said it was “okay” and told me not to make a big deal out of it.

However, I could see my mom cringe again when my friend did it later that day.

She told her friend that what she was doing was disrespectful.

When I was walking the friend out, I told her it was disrespectful and to stop doing it.

She brushed it off again and said my mom didn’t seem to mind so why should I.

I told her because it’s disrespectful and my mom didn’t like it.

I asked my mom why she didn’t speak up and she said:

“I didn’t want to cause a scene and it wasn’t that big of an ordeal.”

Even though I could see her cringe during each moment… even through the smiles.

Now, she’s wondering if she should just let it go.

I know my mom and she does not like it, but she isn’t going to correct my friend.

AITA for saying something to my friend about it in front of my mom?

I don’t want this to have a negative impact on our friendship, but I can see a future conflict if she keeps it up.

Should I let it go or bring it up to her before she sees my mom again?

Let’s find out what others have to say about this.

It sounds like she’s in preschool, says this one.

This user shares their personal thoughts.

Here’s another honest opinion from this one.

This person has a rhetorical question.

Finally, people are calling OP out.

Respect is respect, no matter how you were raised.

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