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Relationships work best when both partners give and take equally.
This young woman balances college and a part-time job.
She earns quite little, so she’d rather spend her money on herself than her boyfriend.
When she decided to just spend time alone and go on adventures by herself, her boyfriend started calling her selfish.
Read the full story below and share your thoughts.
AITA for not paying for my boyfriend?
I (18F) am currently in college.
My boyfriend (18M) also goes to school while playing a Division 3 sport.
I am taking 20 credit hours while also working a part-time job.
My boyfriend just focuses on school and his sport.
This young woman enjoys spending her money on herself.
I don’t make much money at all since I only work about 10 hours a week.
When I get money, I enjoy spending it on myself.
Usually, I pay for both me and my boyfriend when we go out to eat or do a fun activity or get a sweet treat.
But recently, I have been going on solo adventures.
She thinks it’s not fair to spend her hard-earned money on her boyfriend.
He is getting a little upset with me because he wants to join me in having fun.
He keeps asking why I never invite him to the random spontaneous adventures I go on.
I always tell him, “I don’t know.”
But really, why should I pay for us both when I can just be paying for myself?
Now, his boyfriend calls her selfish.
It’s just frustrating.
He keeps calling me selfish, but I’m always the one paying.
Also, I think I should mention that whenever he goes out with his friends, he pays for them and himself.
AITA?
Let’s find out what others have to say about this.
This user shares their personal thoughts.
This person gives their honest opinion.
He’s just using you, says this one.
This user suggests communicating well with her boyfriend.
Finally, people are asking the same things.
Giving too much can make independence look like selfishness.
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