Father Promised To Include Him In His Will, But Now He’s Having To Sue His Sister Because She’s Fighting To Make Sure He Doesn’t Get Anything

Matthew Gilligan

4 hours ago

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We’ve said it before, but we’re gonna say it again…

Things can get pretty complicated between family members when it comes to finances.

And the person you’re about to hear from in this story from Reddit is really going through it with their sister about their father’s estate.

Is she wrong?

Let’s see what’s going on here…

AITA for suing my sister over our dad’s estate since I only just reconciled with my dad?

“Two years ago, I had a falling out with my father that resulted in him altering his will to cut me out.

I imagined we’d never speak again, but some family members organized an intervention that led to my father and I reconciling this past November. Dad I and attended therapy together, came to terms, and we both agreed neither of us were happy with cutting the other off.

Late in February, we lost my father, and so I’m deeply thankful that we did manage to reconcile and reestablish our relationship. In all sincerity, I know I’d be depressed as hell if my dad had passed away with my last words to him having been what they were.

Several times leading up to this, dad had said he would be re-including me into his estate planning. He had brought this up not only with me, but with friends and family, and his attorney as well.

But the will wasn’t changed…

Dad obviously did not expect things to go the way they did, so his will remained unaltered, with my younger sister receiving everything.

My sister “Jessie” is actually one of the people who worked to get dad and I to reconcile, and she was aware of his intent to write me back in, so I thought there’d be no fight.

However when I mentioned the idea of dividing the estate fairly between us, she became defensive and pointed out that the will was written to leave everything to her at the time of dad’s passing, and since dad did not change his will, she cannot know for sure that dad did not want her to have everything.

They’re trying to convince their sister…

I feel she’s being selfish. I’ve tried to sit down and talk with her, making significant compromises as really I’m fine with her keeping his savings and home.

I only want an AMC Eagle dad and I had restored together several years ago along with some gifts I had given him and a 50/50 split of his vacation cabin that Jessie doesn’t even like.

Jessie refused to hear me out. She said she plans to give the car to her husband’s nephew, and even though the gifts I gave dad have almost no value, she wants to retain them.

I spoke with my dad’s attorney who told me that I have a solid chance to dispute the will as there’s a significant number of people (himself included) who were aware of dad’s intents.

Dad had also sent me text messages talking about his intent, as well, which at least included his desire that I should have the car.

My dad’s attorney would not represent me, as he believed it may result in conflicts, but he did introduce me to another estate attorney who’s taken my case and is equally confident.

This family is about to go to war.

Jessie is furious. She says I’m selfish and that me spending a couple months with dad following nearly two years of quiet doesn’t entitle me to anything.

A few family members have joined Jessie, insisting I should accept this as my punishment for the extended fight I had with my dad in the first place.

But the majority of our family is standing with me, and Jessie’s own husband has said her behavior is problematic, although I’ve encouraged him not to speak with Jessie and I don’t want to see friction between them.

AITA?”

Check out what folks had to say on Reddit.

This person said they’re NTA.