While everyone knows you shouldn’t, saying things that are mean behind other people’s back is one of those things that everyone does sometimes.

What would you do if your mom’s boyfriend said something hurtful about your wife to your mom, thinking that it was in private, but your wife overheard it?

That is what happened to the husband in this story, so he disinvited the boyfriend from Thanksgiving, but the family thinks he is overreacting.

AITA for not allowing my mom to bring her boyfriend to thanksgiving?

My wife and I are hosting our first Thanksgiving in our new house, and we are having some conflict surrounding my mom’s boyfriend “Rick” and if he should attend or not.

Well, it seems like he should definitely be there then.

My mom has been with Rick for a few years, and he has always been polite to us though a bit standoffish and clingy with my mom.

I thought everything was good until over the summer, right after our wedding, my mom called my wife while she was in the car with Rick.

This type of mistake can make for an awkward situation.

She was using CarPlay and seemed to think she hung up when she didn’t. My wife overheard Rick as my mom if I made a lot of money.

IDK if it is relevant but Rick and my mom are both loaded.

Wow, this is really rude. But it was never meant to be something other people heard.

My mom asked why, and he said he thought my career usually paid well, and then he was like “I’m a jerk for saying this, but his wife is not pretty. I’d think he could afford better.”

My mom immediately told him off for being gross, but my wife was absolutely gutted.

This is a terrible situation, but people are entitled to their opinions.

She called me crying and I immediately called my mom and yelled at her. She was so embarrassed and apologized profusely. I believe my mom genuinely would never want to hurt us, but that doesn’t change what he said.

Rick apologized as well, but honestly, how do you get past this?

I can 100% see both sides of this situation.

The issue is Thanksgiving is tomorrow and my wife never wants to see Rick again.

My mom feels we are being unfair and that we should forgive him as he gave a “genuine apology” and he “never intended for anyone to hear that.”

Mom is right, everyone has said things that would be hurtful if heard by others.

She said she is sure we have conversations we would never want anyone to hear.

I told her he absolutely cannot come, but I really hope she will.

Someone is going to have to swallow their pride and work to get past it.

Ultimately my mom decided to spend Thanksgiving with Rick and now the rest of the family is angry with me.

My aunt said I’m being a selfish brat when my mom has put me first my entire life, and my grandma said my wife needs to grow up and accept that he might not find her attractive.

This is a very awkward situation, but the bottom line is that this guy and his wife will need to get over it eventually. Hopefully it can turn into something funny.

Let’s see what the people in the comments have to say.

Well of course this is the case.

Choosing his wife is the right thing to do.

I’m not sure I believe this commenter.

This commenter says he is doing the right thing.

What he said was really out of line.

What he said was very hurtful, but was it unforgivable?

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