Bigger isn’t always better, but some people want a showy display of affection when they get engaged. But what about a big diamond that was lab-grown vs. a “real” diamond?

In this story, a couple disagrees about what’s a better token of love… an ethical “fake” diamond or a more traditional one that might have some shady origins.

Let’s see how this pans out…

AITA for not wanting to pay for a diamond ring?

So my girlfriend and I recently got engaged, and I figured it would be nicer to have her pick out her own ring rather than have me guessing what she likes.

I already know my girlfriend loves shiny things, but now she is absolutely adamant that she wants a real diamond ring.

He wanted to save some money.

Personally I don’t like the idea of shelling out so much money for a piece of jewelry with an artificial high price.

So instead I offered to buy her one that was lab-grown, as it’s way cheaper but also doesn’t involve shady business practices and labor.

Money isn’t an issue, it’s really about the ethics for me.

I do not like the idea of buying her something that potentially harmed someone in the making of it for our wedding.

She doesn’t feel the same way.

But she thinks I’m being stingy for not buying her a “real” diamond.

We’ve already gotten in a few arguments over this so now I wanted to ask you guys if I should just suck it up or not.

This is a rough cut of an argument.

What do the comments on Reddit have to say?

This person has a contrarian POV.

This poster says everyone is being reasonable: compromise.

Another person says, just communicate.

This poster says it’s rude to make someone choose their own presents.

Another user has a clever idea.

Diamonds are forever, but they’re not for everyone.

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