No matter how old people get, birthdays can still stir up some serious emotions.

While one woman was busy planning her mom’s birthday, her sister-in-law suddenly declared her the villain for not throwing her one too.

So after her sister-in-law began giving the whole family the silent treatment, she can’t help but wonder how everything went so terribly wrong.

Read on for the full story.

AITA did no plan a 40th birthday celebration for sister in law?

Hubby just told me his sister isn’t talking to any of us because she’s upset that we didn’t plan a birthday party for her.

I’ve been planning my mom’s milestone birthday — it’s around the same time.

Somehow or another, things got dropped and a party didn’t get planned.

We all wished her on her birthday and were trying to solidify dinner plans, but that weekend wasn’t working out, so we decided on the following weekend.

When I asked my hunny about any updates, he said he hadn’t heard back yet — only to find out a few days later that things can’t be solidified because she’s not responding to anyone.

I have no idea how to rectify the situation.

She feels bad things ended this way, but also doesn’t think she could have done any better with everything else on her plate.

Hubby says no one plans their own birthday because it’s lame — I don’t disagree.

But she’s not attached to anyone, so she was expecting something, and I feel bad.

I’m just emotionally strung out myself from other things going on, and I feel internally dead inside, so I need some insight.

AITA?

It’s tough to please everyone, but this story just takes things to a whole new level.

What did Reddit think?

The wrong person is getting the blame here.

In adulthood, the responsibility does usually fall on that person to plan their own birthday.

This commenter has a lot of problems with this story.

If this woman really wanted it done, she should have done it herself.

No one expected a simple birthday to end in this level of dramatics.

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