Not everyone has a Gilmore Girls kind of relationship with their mom.

In this story, a young woman shares how her mom made her feel humiliated in front of family and friends, and how she snapped in an attempt to defend herself.

Now she’s wondering if she was in the wrong for how she reacted.

Let’s read the whole story.

AITA for saying my mom only cares about her reputation and not her kids at a friends dinner.

Context: I’m 18(f) at the moment, and when I was 16 I ran away from home for about 1 week after a big argument with my mother, who I have a very turbulent relationship with.

I ended up coming back after a call with my middle brother.

Today we went to dinner with some family friends and one of them was congratulating me on getting into the university I wanted.

I’m the first person of our family to go to university (including cousins, aunts etc..) so this is a big deal for me and I’m very proud of it.

Then another person joined in and said I was a very good child and would love to have a child like me.

But her mom felt the need to let them know a few things.

My mother decided to join in and said I wasn’t a good child, I was selfish and self centered.

She said I gave too much trouble and decided to tell them about the time I ran away from home (which she always brings up everytime someone compliments me).

The room got very awkward and people stopped talking and just stared at me.

I exploded because this was years of situations like this happening.

I got up and very loudly said that my mother was the selfish and self-centered one, that she only cared about her reputation and being viewed as a saint for having to deal with a “troublemaker” like me.

Once again, she had to leave the situation.

I told her that she should be thinking of the reason of why I did what I did and not telling the world to make herself appear innocent, and that my two older brothers think the same.

Then I left and went home.

I do believe I shouldn’t have done it in front of everyone there, but my temper was hanging by a thread.

We live together and she hasn’t uttered a word to me, and left me a note saying I should start paying rent because if I think she’s such a bad mother, then she ‘finally’ will be one.

My brothers told me I was right on arguing with her but I should’ve done it when I got home.

AITA?

Her mother is in the wrong for implying that she doesn’t deserve compliments.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this.

Exactly.

She made her choice.

It’s complicated.

She needs a plan.

Another reader chimes in.

This could be helpful.

Yikes.

Parents who don’t apologize are missing out on having a healthy relationship with their kids.

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