Traveling with another couple can be a lot of fun, but when they have children, it will certainly change the way things go.

What would you do if your fiancée wanted to bring her sister and niblings on a trip, but the last time that happened, the kids made it so you missed many of the highlights of the trip?

That is the situation that the guy in this story is in, so he wants to travel without her sister, but his fiancée won’t commit to it.

AITAH For telling my fiancée to not bring her sister’s family on our travels because of their 4-year old kid?

So my fiancée and I love traveling and sometimes she brings along her sister and the husband with us because they like to travel as well and I have no problem with that.

The more the merrier, right?

Kids are wonderful, but they definitely change things.

Then they had a kid. As the kid grew older, I noticed he’s becoming a little spoiled.

Tantrums here and there and even when in public he can be a little too noisy which is kind of awkward and people are staring at us.

Traveling with children is a lot different than traveling with adults only.

Then comes the time we’re going to travel again, and my fiancée asks if she can bring them with us again along with their kid and I said sure why not.

It was my first time in Hong Kong and my first time in a Disney Land and it’s one of my dreams since I was a kid.

A day at Disney is exhausting for anyone, especially kids.

Here comes the first disappointment, as we were enjoying the park the kid suddenly threw tantrums and we had to stop for a while because he was getting tired.

I told my fiancée we should try the rides ourselves while they rest but she has to take care of the kid while her sister and the husband gets food and drinks for the child.

The parents should be the ones dealing with this.

Then moving forward, we had to stop again because he was having tantrums again and becoming more and more noisy.

At the end of the day, we missed a lot of rides and we couldn’t even see a live show which only shows at a scheduled time.

When traveling with kids, you need to plan in naps and other things.

Now for the second disappointment, we went to Macau the next day. He threw tantrums as expected the afternoon and was complaining that he’s tired.

I asked my fiancée if we could carry on the trip just the two of us but she said her sister and the kid wants to see the tourist spots as well.

Yes, the sister wants to see them, but she has other responsibilities right now.

I mean he’s a kid why would he be interested in architectures and casinos of course he’s going to get bored and tired.

So in the end, we never get to see the Eiffel Tower and Big Ben replicas which is two of the big spots there.

I don’t blame him for wanting to travel alone.

We were planning our next travel recently and I told her why not just the two of us this time because last time we couldn’t fully enjoy our travel because of the kid.

She only said that we’ll see.

Family is important, but they shouldn’t ruin a trip either.

My fiancée is family-oriented I get that and I respect it, I feel bad when I told her and I feel like she might think I don’t want her family involved in our travels but all I want is for the two of us to enjoy travel like we used to.

AITA?

I can certainly see both sides of this, but when traveling with other people’s kids, maybe only do things that the kids will love, and plan for some downtime to let the kids rest.

Otherwise, travel without the kids. Read on to see what the people in the comments have to say about it.

This commenter says not to give her a choice.

The sister should take care of her own kids.

Yup, kids won’t have fun on all trips.

Yeah, she needs to have the conversation.

This commenter wrote him a script.

This couple needs to get on the same page.

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