How long would you wait before introducing your children to a new boyfriend or girlfriend? Would you set a specific number of months, or would it depend on how strongly you felt about the relationship?

In this story, one mom and dad who share custody of their children disagree about the answer to this question, and it caused a big argument.

Let’s read all the details.

AITA for wanting my ex to wait before introducing his new gf to our children after 3 months of dating?

So basically as the title says, my ex (37m) is pushing that my two children (2m & 4m) meet his new gf (36f) and they’ve only known each other since August 2025 (3 months).

I (34f) am not comfortable with this.

So for context, me and my ex split up at the end of last year after a 15 year relationship. We got engaged at some point during this but we didn’t mesh well and amicably split up.

We have a good relationship and co-parent our children successfully.

Here’s what she knows about the girlfriend.

The information that I know about their relationship is what he’s shared with me. He met someone on a dating app, and met her for the first time in August. She lives 2 hours away and has her own son (6m).

From what he tells me about her, she seems like a person I’d actually really like. But I haven’t met her.

She has introduced him to her son. A few times apparently. They took a trip together for a weekend. (Ex & new gf, her son wasn’t there). My ex has also briefly met her ex during child pick up.

From what I know he sees her maybe once or twice a week. And then over his child free weekends (every 2nd week).

They disagree about how long to wait before introducing their children to the girlfriend.

He brought up thinking of introducing our children to her.

I said I thought it was too soon and it turned into an argument.

He asked me what would be an acceptable timeframe and I stated at least 6 months.

He didn’t like this response and ended up storming out.

She’s trying to protect of her children.

I just want to make sure any adults introduced to our children is someone he’s serious about and I want to protect my children.

So AITA for saying I think it’s too soon and to wait a bit longer before meeting the kids?

Six months doesn’t sound unreasonable at all. He should definitely wait longer than three months before introducing their children to his girlfriend.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

A family law paralegal shares some advice.

She can’t control what he does.

This person doesn’t think her request is unreasonable.

Here’s a warning.

This is a tricky situation that may be best left up to the court.

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