When no one is willing to compromise, you might as well just give up.

So, what would you do if your mom wanted to visit your children, but expected you to drive hours into NYC and back on a night work? Would you do as she wants, even if you don’t want to? Or would you offer a reasonable alternative like the train?

In the following story, one man finds himself in this situation, and his mom is not interested in the train. Here’s what’s going on.

AITA for not wanting to drive to pick up my mom 3 – 6 hours drive to visit her grandchildren!!

My wife (37) and I (36) have twins who are 5 months old, and we have a 4-year-old. My mom lives in Brooklyn, NY, and we live in Bridgeport, CT.

My mom (57) called and said she wants to come visit the twins for the weekend, and she wants me to pick her up on Friday and drop her off at home Sunday evening.

Knowing that since my wife and I both work full-time jobs and get home around 5- 5:30ish after picking the kids from daycare, I asked my mom if she minds taking the train, and I’ll pick her up from the train station.

His mother is very hard to please.

She immediately said, ” I ain’t taking no train.”

My issue is that driving into NYC on a Friday evening is not ideal, where what would usually take 1.5 – 2 hours can easily turn into a 3-hour ordeal one way, and the same goes for the return trip. I go to work around 6 and leave work at 3, and the extra driving to NYC and back is something I really don’t want to do.

A couple of months ago, my mom had a car that she drove to come visit maybe once every couple of months, but that car is now busted.

I offered her my older car before the twins arrived, knowing we were going to need a bigger vehicle. She said, “She is used to driving an SUV, and my smaller SUV was too small/too low for her,” so we sold it.

Now, he’s not sure what to say.

I haven’t responded to her last msg because I don’t know what to say

And my mom has absolutely no issues with taking the train on a regular basis. She only got her license less than 10 years ago. She doesn’t have any physical impediment as far as I know.

My mom is a Caribbean parent who thinks that my siblings and I owe her for getting us permanent residency in the US 15+ years ago, except I’m the only “successful one” out of the bunch.

AITA?

Yikes! No one likes beefing with their mom.

Let’s see if the people over at Reddit have any advice he can use.

This reader suggests he get his mom to relate.

According to this reader, he has too much going on.

For this person, it’s about standing firm.

This reader thinks it’s crazy that the mom is acting like that.

Saying no is completely acceptable, but he needs to make a decision and stick with it.

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