Don’t you think it is a bit weird when friends don’t understand boundaries?

This girl shares how her friends got mad at her because she kept her relationship private for sometime!

Check out how things got really bad between them.

AITA for ‘betraying’ my friends by having a secret boyfriend?

I (24F) have a pretty horrible dating history.

I’ve never had a relationship end in a way that wasn’t a world shattering disaster (multiple cheating cases, ghosting, abuse, etc).

This is where it gets tricky!

Last year I had the worst breakup of my entire life that shook me up for a full year and some change. I don’t have a big circle but I have a small group of friends that are all aware of my bad history with relationships.

This year I decided to dip my toe back into dating after the breakup and was casually seeing a few people over about 4-6 weeks.

Other important context is that I have bipolar, and if you didn’t know, a big part of that is getting very excited over new things and having your interest die over time.

She didn’t want anyone to know about this…

The same goes with relationships, you tend to get really hyped and optimistic after a good first date only for things to fizzle and have to tell everyone it didn’t work out, which can be really embarrassing.

This time when I decided to date around, I deliberately didn’t tell anyone I was doing it.

I’m just a little sick of messaging all my friends about this nice new person I’m seeing only for it not to work out, and they’re probably sick of me telling them all about new things I’m interested in, knowing it’ll fizzle away.

I am working on it, I’m just aware that I’m hard to deal with.

She was trying to keep it private!

While dating around on a few apps I met my current boyfriend, and I realized quickly I wanted to see him more than just a casual/FYB situation.

We saw each other a few times before deciding to be exclusive. I didn’t tell any of my friends just in case it didn’t work out, but now it’s been 4 months and still going steady so I decided to tell people.

I sent a few pictures to my group chats saying ‘hard launch’, expecting people to laugh with me, especially since I’m hilariously bad at keeping secrets.

Basically everybody blew up at me, telling me I had lied to them for 4 months and that I was being weird and betraying their friendship and trust by not telling them I had a boyfriend.

UH OH…

I hate lying outright so the whole time I was lying by omission, just not telling them I was going on dates and then seeing someone exclusively.

I’m mortified and don’t want to lose all my friends over something I thought would just be a fun surprise/funny reveal.

She was not expecting that reaction!

If I genuinely messed up and this wasn’t an OK thing for me to do I want to know, I’m neurodivergent so it’s hard for me to know with things like this.

I’m not trying to rally people into my corner, if this is something that would generally hurt people I want to know so I can do better next time.

GEEZ! That’s a bit shocking!

Why would the friends make such a huge deal out of it?

Let’s find out what folks on Reddit think about this one.

This user knows exactly why this girl decided to never tell the friends.

Exactly! This user knows there’s nothing wrong with keeping things private sometimes!

This user shares how they’re really private about everything!

This user knows this lady’s friends don’t need to know everything.

This user thinks the friends might just be worries about this girl considering the history.

Some people really need to tone it down!

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