When you become a teenager, suddenly you’re awash with feelings that once seemed just a remote possibility to you.

That’s what makes a teenager swoon one minute and argue the next – the hormones flooding their bodies can be dramatic to say the least.

And it takes a little time to grow into these emotions and know how to handle them healthily – in fact, this is a skill that many grown adults lack too.

So when the young man in this story watched his friend going through heartbreak, he was sympathetic.

Six months down the line, he’s lost a lot of that initial sympathy, and is kind of done with his friend talking about it.

Read on to find out what happened when he asked him to stop.

AITA for outright invalidating my friend’s feelings?

Back in April 2025, my friend ‘E’ (18, male) started dating the girl who my other friend ‘A’ (18, male) had liked before and had been friends with since childhood.

Now, six months before she had started dating E, she had rejected A – meaning that she and A never dated at all, they were just close friends.

This led to the group breaking apart, with some ups and downs where a comeback was possible – but by September (this happened in April) it became clear that the friend group was no more.

This left me and my best friend ‘P’ (18, male) in a very bad spot, since we weren’t involved in any of this but now felt like we had to pick a side. We chose to remain neutral, but I finally broke that neutrality this last month.

Let’s see how this was affecting things down the line.

It’s worth noting that whilst E had moved on (he was happy with his girlfriend), A clearly hadn’t.

More often than not when we hopped on Discord, he would ramble over and over again about the whole situation, talking bad about both E and his girlfriend.

Me and P tolerated this, since we didn’t want to make him mad, but we were getting tired of A’s monologues about the situation.

Eventually, one of those Discord nights I was done.

Read on to find out how this situation blew up once again.

A was talking about how E’s girlfriend had seen one of A’s friends and told him that her and A were fine, which according to A they weren’t.

That’s when I told him that: respectfully A, it’s been a year since she rejected you and six months since they started dating. You still caring is actually extremely pathetic.

A was surprised, since until now I had just agreed with him on everything he would state (P and I didn’t actually agree on everything, but we just didn’t want to argue or make him mad).

He quickly told me how he has moved on, but he just sometimes feels like yapping about it.

Let’s see how he responded to his friend.

I told him (roughly): “No you haven’t, I literally don’t care about it. You have been saying you’ve moved on for almost four months and yet you still bring it up.”

“Your feelings are meaningless to me at this point, you’ve said a lot of bad things about both of them, grow up, stop insulting them and stop talking about them. Period.”

Now, I’ll admit my choice of words was quite harsh, and I would change the way I expressed this.

But understand that, from my perspective, it had been 6 months of this happening every 2 or 3 nights on Discord (which we would hop on almost everyday). I got very tired about it.

And the result of this was yet more tension in the friend group.

A and I had an argument which basically ended up in him saying that in his mind I was no longer his friend the same way I was before.

He removed me from close friends on Instagram and we barely talk just the two of us, it always has to have P on it.

Also, according to P, A claims that he can no longer trust me, and that he won’t share any personal issues with me.

AITA?

This situation must have become quite tiresome for everyone involved – it’s no wonder that this guy spoke out.

But he’s right, the words he used weren’t particularly well-chosen – especially since he’d been agreeing with A up until that point.

It sounds like these guys need some new friends.

Let’s see how the Reddit community reacted to this.

This person agreed that really, both friends were in the wrong.

Meanwhile, this person empathised with the young man and his broken-hearted friend.

It’s clear that this teen is a little unskilled when it comes to helping his friend with difficult feelings – but at eighteen years old, what do you expect?

Eventually, another girl will come along that will make A forget all about his childhood friend – but he’s not there yet.

Right now, he’s hurting – but complaining over and over is understandably getting his friends down.

They’ll learn to regulate their emotions in time, and hopefully be able to have the difficult conversations that both needed.

For now, they just need to weather the storm.

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