Sleepovers are a controversial topic for a lot of parents. One concern is not knowing the children or their parents.

Check out why this mom is getting flak for her position.

AITA For not letting my child have a sleepover with his step-siblings at my place?

I have a son with my ex. We split up over two years ago. We didn’t end our relationship on good terms and we only communicate about child-related things.

I don’t know much about his personal life outside of basic info. He’s dating a woman I only met once. She has three kids I’ve never met. I only know their names thanks to my child’s stories and a single birthday card they’d signed for my child.

So she’s really uncomfortable with the idea.

I don’t even know their exact ages, all I know is that they’re in primary school, but are older than my kid (so they’re between 7-11y/o).

I am more than happy with this arrangement too. That’s why I am very confused by their request to have two of the step-siblings over for a sleepover.

My child just had his room renovated and evidently bragged about his Minecraft room. He’s already had his cousin (my ex’s nephew) for a sleepover too, so it’s clear that we don’t mind the general idea of sleepovers.

When my ex mentioned this idea of me hosting his step kids, I immediately shot it down. I am only comfortable hosting our nephew and this is because I know him and his parents very well.

I don’t even consider letting my child’s closest friends stay overnight just yet. Why would I let strangers sleep in my house? I don’t know their mother and I don’t know them.

I don’t feel comfortable taking responsibility for those kids.

Her husband doesn’t get this or respect it.

My ex argued that I know him (safe to say- that argument made me even less inclined to cave LOL) and that the kids are now siblings so it’s good for them to have those experiences together.

I responded saying that they already have the experience of sleeping under the same roof when my kid is with his dad.

My ex called me cruel for causing a division between the siblings since the steps are not even allowed to experience sleeping in the Minecraft room. I am not too sure what that even means- it’s just a room.

I told my ex that I’m happy to share some tips and tricks if he decides to turn one of his own rooms into a Minecraft room to give the kids the experience of sleeping in one.

My son knows my opinion on sleepovers. Once I told him no, he didn’t push this idea any further. He is happy to see his step-siblings when he’s at his dad’s.

AITA?

Here is what people are saying.

I’m afraid I agree. You need to call him out otherwise he’ll keep trying.

Good point. Make it seem like no biggie.

One would not have thought this to be a controversial take.

Trust is huge!

Excellent point. He needs the boundary, too.

Guilt tripping is never positive.

If you thought that was an interesting story, check out what happened when a family gave their in-laws a free place to stay in exchange for babysitting, but things changed when they don’t hold up their end of the bargain.