Family trips can be stressful, especially with difficult in-laws.

The following story involves a woman who has a history of tension with her husband’s family.

As she is currently expecting, she worries that her relationship with them might affect her health during pregnancy.

So now, she’s considering skipping the family trip completely.

Let’s take a closer look!

AITA for not going on a planned family trip with my in-laws and not telling them beforehand?

I have been with my husband for six years.

We have been married for three. We have a two-year-old child.

I am currently pregnant.

There has been ongoing tension with my in-laws for years.

They tend to dismiss my concerns. They take no accountability.

This woman had had several conflicts with her in-laws in the past.

One example: when my toddler had a normal tantrum, my MIL claimed he had a demon.

Later, she said that she meant well. She said I was exaggerating.

Two months ago, a separate family conflict occurred.

It involved my husband’s sister and my brother.

My sister-in-law broke up with my brother after three months.

So she decided to limit her contact with them.

During the conflict, my in-laws attacked my mother.

They escalated the situation.

They don’t understand that such behavior towards my family can also hurt me.

Shortly after, my FIL sent me an accusatory message. It left me extremely upset.

Since then, I’ve limited contact to reduce stress.

She thought joining the family trip might add stress to her condition.

A family weekend trip was planned for November. It was later postponed to the end of February.

This is around my MIL’s birthday. By that time, I will be in my third trimester.

Given recent events and past behavior, I am concerned that attending would expose me to significant stress.

I am also concerned it would negatively affect my health.

She decided not to attend instead.

A recent conversation meant to clear the air turned into a two-hour argument.

My in-laws insisted they did nothing wrong. They minimized my concerns.

They demanded an apology from me. The issue remains unresolved.

I have decided not to attend this trip. I don’t want to inform my in-laws in advance.

Past experience tells me it will lead to prolonged guilt-tripping.

It will also lead to pressure to change my mind.

At the same time, she’s also wondering if she was the problem in this whole situation.

I will discuss this with my husband. I do not plan to notify his family beforehand.

The trip is already paid for. I don’t want a refund. I really don’t want to go.

I am starting to wonder if maybe I’m the problem.

I wonder if I shouldn’t make such a scene.

AITA if I simply don’t show up without warning them?

Let’s see how others reacted to this story.

This person gives some sound advice.

Your husband needs to back you up, says this one.

Here’s a similar thought from this user.

Here’s another valid point.

Finally, short and simple.

Sometimes, self-care means saying “no” without explanation.

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