A 25-year-old woman recently celebrated a major milestone: her graduation. When it came time to get ready, she chose to go to the salon she’s trusted for over a decade rather than her sister-in-law’s salon.

While her sister-in-law is a trained beautician, past experiences left the graduate uncomfortable, particularly since her curly hair and South Asian skin tone hadn’t been handled well before.

Read on for the story.

AITA for not going to my sister-in-law’s salon

AITA for not going to my sister-in-law’s salon to get ready for my graduation? I, 25F is the youngest of 3 kids. My brother 32M got married to his 9 years girlfriend now my sister-in-law 30F, 3 years ago.

She is a good beautician but she doesn’t know how to handle my curly hair or my skin tone.

I know this because I got her to help me get dress for a wedding previously and came out looking like I got flour all over my face.

Oh boy.

I’m a south asian woman mind you. So you can understand why I didn’t choose to go to her salon for my big day and choose the salon I went to over 10 years.

That was just my decision.

I thought since me and my brother – not to mention sister-in-law, aren’t close they won’t care much about it.

Not so sure about that one.

But today an argument broke out and this came out.

Apparently I was hurting them.

So can I know AITA?

Now she’s left wondering whether choosing a stylist she felt confident with for an important day was inconsiderate, or simply reasonable.

This person says OP did absolutely nothing wrong.

This person agrees: NTA, and for a lot of reasons.

And this person has some suggestions on what to do next.

Choosing peace of mind over family pressure for a once-in-a-lifetime moment doesn’t make her rude, it makes her realistic.

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