Taking care of your own family can sometimes create conflict with your parents.

The following story involves a woman whose dad just underwent cancer surgery.

She helped her parents with hospital visits and a birthday celebration.

But despite all these, her parents were disappointed she didn’t check in more frequently.

Read the full story below to find out more…

AITA for not checking on my dad?

I’m in a moral dilemma here. My dad had cancer surgery two weeks ago.

I went to see him with my mum and sister when he woke up.

I also collected him from the hospital the following day to take him home.

This woman called to check in on her dad a few times after he was discharged from the hospital.

I spoke to him on the phone three days later.

Then, again after another seven days.

This was after he had an appointment with doctors to have his catheter removed.

I also arranged to go out with him and my mum for a meal to celebrate my mum’s birthday in one week’s time.

She learned that her parents were disappointed in her.

Fast forward to four days later, and I received a message.

My parents were very disappointed in me.

They said he had been home two weeks, and I had not been there to see him and I barely called.

I was on call with work over the weekend, and my kids were ill.

It genuinely slipped my mind.

She got busy with work and her sick child.

For context, I have a very busy day job.

I have two young children aged four and one.

The one-year-old was ill over the weekend.

We had the in-laws over for my mother-in-law’s 60th birthday.

He apologized to them, but they still think his priorities are not set correctly.

I apologised over the phone to my dad. I received a response from my mum via text.

They doubled down on their disappointment.

They said my priorities were wrong and that I didn’t check in enough on his welfare.

AITA for not checking in over the weekend?

Have I used my kids and my own work as an excuse?

Let’s check out the comments of other people.

Apologize and do better, advises this person.

This user gives their honest opinion.

Here’s another valid point.

Someone who had surgery shares their personal thoughts.

Finally, short and simple.

Prioritizing your own family doesn’t mean neglecting your parents.

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